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05 Jun 14 #435787 by JTee
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I am off to the docs tomorrow afternoon to speak for the first time about my pending divorce with the stbx we both have the same doctor and she had to see him much more than i did and we used to go in together

Tommorow i am on my own going in there im really anxious and think when i get there i wont tell the whole story like i would like too i know it is vital for me to do this as i have not slept properly for months and crying everyday is doing me no good at all

I even thought about cancelling it

any advice how i can stop this anxiety for tomorrow

cheers everyone

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05 Jun 14 #435790 by driven40
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Hi try writing it all down, so if you can''t say the stuff at least they can read it or at least you wont forget anything. Don''t worry about going on your own that is what they are there for to help you

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05 Jun 14 #435793 by dhillon884
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Hi - a doctor will keep everything confidential, they are only there for your health and well-being, so there is nothing for you to feel anxious about.

Tell him as much as you feel comfortable saying for him to be able to help you.

It should not matter your stbx is visiting the same doctor, he should not hold her interests or version of events higher than yours. He will only be concerned with your health and wellbeing so write your list of things to discuss and see how the conversation goes.

Once you let things off your chest, you will feel so much better. I am one to always keep my feelings inside, i remember first time i went to doctor to get help with depression symptons, once i started talking I couldn''t stop.

The fact your stbx visits him may work in your favour too, he may already have some answers and background to why you are feeling the way you are - although he won''t tell you what she said, he is best placed to help you.

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05 Jun 14 #435795 by Action
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It''s a good positive step to see your GP. He/she is a professional, there to do a job - will no doubt have heard a similar story before and will know how to help you. I visited mine once a week for at least six months - him and the counsellor he put me onto were life savers, my safety net.

Just try to be as honest as you can and good luck!

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05 Jun 14 #435800 by JTee
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Thanks for the advice everyone i look in on it again tomorrow give me a boost before i leave

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05 Jun 14 #435802 by elizadoolittle
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No need to worry about it at all. Just say you''re experiencing tearfulness and sleeplessness. The rest will fall into place. You do not need to be brave about it or give any particular details - the dr will ask any necessary questions and you will be fine answering them. It''s not a test even though it can sometimes seem in advance as though it is. Try to take it easy. It doesn''t matter if you cry or not while in the surgery. The doctors have seen it all before. Good luck x

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05 Jun 14 #435808 by JTee
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elizadoolittle wrote:

No need to worry about it at all. Just say you''re experiencing tearfulness and sleeplessness. The rest will fall into place. You do not need to be brave about it or give any particular details - the dr will ask any necessary questions and you will be fine answering them. It''s not a test even though it can sometimes seem in advance as though it is. Try to take it easy. It doesn''t matter if you cry or not while in the surgery. The doctors have seen it all before. Good luck x


Thanks Eliza :)

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