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Sick and tired of being sick and tired

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06 Jul 14 #438763 by JTee
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Worse year worse week let down after let down let down by a job this week i thought i had has just plundered me deep into hurt and rejection again i hurt everyday but started to control it again until this blow

Just shows me i cant handle any sort of life blow i long to be a family again in my head yet know that will never be possible again so why do i bloody think it all the time

i feel quite scared now as the love for my son when he is over is paramount above all and i cry away from him i am starting to think is it worth all this and want to run away on my own away from everything and everyone i love or know

Maybe to see if anyone notices maybe to sort my head i do not know all i know is i can not go on like this i have counselling in 12 weeks or so i think about meeting someone new to love and cherish but then its all for the wrong reasons this stinkin year worse year of my life

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06 Jul 14 #438764 by AngieP
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Sorry you''re feeling so bad J Tee. I know what you mean by wanting to run away trouble is we would only take our problems with us.Same if we went into a new relationship too quickly. Things will get better. You will have better weeks and I am sure the counselling will help. Just hang on in there and dig deep. Lots here who understand your pain. X

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06 Jul 14 #438768 by JTee
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Thanks Angie i am really in bits at the moment i feel so terrible i could actually be sick i been having panic attacks and have tablets for this i see no light i cant even see the tunnel to get to the light im just existing day to day i am a pathetic shadow of what i used to be i have so called friends tell me to man up don''t bother with them now have some close friends who really understand too one mate took him 7 years to really get over his split he has settled again

i don''t have much money so holidays is not an option like me as it is for some and most days just sit on my own thinking about the past what did i do wrong and how i wish i could mend it

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06 Jul 14 #438770 by Home alone feeling better
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Hi jTee

Sending you some virtual hugs ((()))

Be kind to yourself is the best bit of advice I can give you. Just like you this week I have felt like running away and escaping to somewhere else, but deep down I know it is not the answer.

We carry our troubles with us it makes no difference where we are. Facing up to them and taking responsibility and making changes and decisions are the only things we can control.

I set myself little targets that I can achieve. I recently joined a running club and have now completed my first 5 km. looking at 10 km next. I did this for me and for no one else.

Take little steps. You have your son that brings great joy into your life concentrate on that for now. Exercise can help with the anxiety. I know have been there too.

Look after yourself x

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06 Jul 14 #438772 by JTee
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Morning Home Alone good to hear your enjoying the running most running i do at the moment is for the bus but sounds good sometimes its nice to get out there and just walk and walk i do that sometimes

have a great day x

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