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Six months on

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04 Sep 14 #443632 by Marshy_
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However, my two wonderful kids achieved fantastic exam results through all this mess so I guess I can''t be that bad.


Six months is not very long Lynn. And you are doing a stella job. You should actually raise your right hand and bring it down on your back and pat. Well done.

But one thing you may not be doing so well i reckon is the relationship between the kids and dad. As a parent, you want to protect your kids. But what your actually doing is taking ownership of his relationship with them and him. Of course comfort them when the contact goes wrong. But allow your ex to fail on his own. Not prop his relationship with them by intervening. If he thinks the odd text is good enough then good for him. Its him thats distancing himself. And its him that suffers in the end. I know you want whats best for them. But you cant make a solid gold watch from a turd.

Apart from that. You are doing good I reckon. Keep it up. Marshy.

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04 Sep 14 #443651 by Home alone feeling better
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Evening

You have done fantastically. You should congratulate yourself and raise a glass or two.

You have dealt with everything he has and still is throwing at you. Just like you I''m about the same time scale as yourself. Mine does not communicate with me neither only through the legal channels.

Keep doing what you are doing, because you are fab x

Congrats on your kids passing their exams all credit to you for supporting them. They will be strong people just like their mum x

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04 Sep 14 #443654 by Lynnp
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Thank you so much and I know you are right. I did try and make the contact work but have made it clear I will no longer be assisting him with this. Both kids are teenagers and now make their own decisions when it comes to seeing him..neither seem to want to but of course he blames me for that. Gold watch and turd sums it up!

Hope all is good in your life.

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05 Sep 14 #443701 by Vastra1
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You are doing well indeed & agree with the others, you can''t shield them from their father''s disinterest, other than being there to comfort them.

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