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09 Nov 14 #448812 by ross78
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Thanks guys,

I''ve had a very weird day today okay I''m a bit hungover went out Friday and then a brother turned up yesterday with cans so got drunk last night aswell, something I haven''t done in years but yesterday daytime my stbx came to pack bits and ended up staying all day, we talked, laughed and it was just like old times to the exception of the OG phoning her and texting as a "friend"
So to start today I was missing her like mad after realising what we have lost, then midday on I felt ok as I was thinking about her and the OG but now im back to missing her, my stomach has started cramping again, I''m hoping its because I feel rough down to the alcohol, tiredness ect...
I''ve also been thinking about the house sale at the end of the month, she is picking up all her stuff next sat (almost everything)so I will be living in an almost empty house for 2 weeks also xmas and new year so its not been a great day but as long as I get through the next 8 agonising weeks I will be fine not looking forward to it tho :(

big hugs winterbaby ((())))
its just taking one step at a time whether its a forward step or backwards it still a step to feeling better

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10 Nov 14 #448833 by polar
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Hate to say it Ross but when you drink ''''all my troubles seem so far away''''.
Then next morning you suffer with a bad head and the damn problems definitely have not gone away and you have a fuzzy head. On top of that your judgement is impaired so you can easily do stupid things like drive the car the next morning when you are still over the limit.
On the positive side at least you were doing something different and mixing with another pperson so thats a step in the right direction.

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10 Nov 14 #448894 by ross78
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Yeah, it was good fun for most of it, going home alone at the end of the night to an empty house was difficult but nice to relax and talk about something else with someone else, not doing a double night for a while tho, glad I had today off work :)

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10 Nov 14 #448901 by polar
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Yep its great to talk with someone else about ''something else'' !!!
Its one reason I used to go out every night of the week including Sundays. Still go out a lot but not so much. No energy !!
I have a single male friend who always has the TV on but hardly ever watches it. I often have a radio on but rarely listen to the music..its a kind of noise in the background. Fortunately my pets (cats) make it less lonely as I can talk to them (even though one is deaf) . The clatter of them playing upstairs make it sound like I am being broken into !!
Small steps..anything to take your mind off the crap you are in. Anything !!!

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11 Nov 14 #448936 by Vastra1
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Just catching up on this thread - wanting your daughter to meet her lover is totally premature & tasteless. Its like they are manic, they have no shame & are like self-centred lovesick teenagers.
Looks like you have been forgiving of her behaviour in the past - seriously you will be better off without her, but I know well the pain of still yearning for them & wondering if you will ever be loved or desired again. The pain will get easier to bear & I suspect like me you will become grateful over time that they left, though sad that they chose to do it in such a cowardly way.

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11 Nov 14 #448941 by polar
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I agree that meeting the new lover is tasteless. Its almost as if they got a new car and want to show if off.
I Have never forced my daughter to meet anyone I have been with. Its more like my daughter meets me and I just happen to be with someone.
It will backfire. My x paraded her guy in front of my daughter as some sort of prize.
It didn''t work. My daughter is still loyal to me and refuses...7 years later ..to meet her mother if he is anywhere around.

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27 Nov 14 #450182 by ross78
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Hi All,

I''m still going through the mill I''m moving out tomorrow so not feeling good about that but I need a bit of advice about stbx,
Now I have come to terms with never being in a relationship with her (my choice as much as hers) but I''ve told her that if the OG is in her life then I am not, as friends or acquaintances,
She has told me a 4 times now that her and the OG are splitting as it don''t feel right but every time 24hrs later I find out that she has made plans to see him, this time the latest plan is she is going up to his place to spend new years eve with him.
My problem is I feel happier when she tells me they are splitting and even friendly towards her but then I feel like crap when she goes back on what she''s said,
She even invited me out for a few drinks for xmas then a day later acted like it was me that was asking her to go for a few drinks.
My head is spinning, I don''t know what to think, I''m back to not sleeping always thinking about her and him.

Any Advice is always welcome

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