Sixth financial hearing yesterday (not counting the two hearings that got adjourned at last minute). This has been going on since February 2015.
I think I've always thought, once he really realised what was going on, he'd negotiate sensibly. I realise now I've been deluded and he's never going to give in regardless of the expense and seemingly small chance of success.
My final hearing last January was adjourned after a full day and an interim judgement was handed down. We were told to go away and sort out the paperwork as a Consent Order as there were undertakings the court couldn't order. He delayed, refused to follow the recommendations of the judge and his barrister, and now, finally we had to go back to court.
So now facing a further 2 day final final hearing, with all the research and documents that need to be written. For me it's more stress and life on hold (LIP), for him potentially another five grand or so of legal fees plus judge has already indicated if he takes me back I can claim my costs from him.
He really is a stubborn fool! I don't know anyone who has had so many court hearings as you. I really do feel for you and can relate to that feeling of just wanting matters settled to allow you to move on and live again. We put our whole lives on hold and being a LIP just takes over every aspect of our lives and then we have these stupid ex's who are too pig headed to see reason. Arrrggggg!
To top it all off, you won't even get the satisfaction of claiming any significant costs as your 'costs' are more in terms of blood, sweat and tears... You've worked so hard as a LIP and the threat of costs probably won't bother him in the slightest.
How long do you now have to wait for the final final hearing?
I'm not going to jinx it by saying "your almost there now" lol!
But I will send you a massive (((hug)))
My ex took me to court, he made it as difficult as possible and two days before the final hearing after the deal was agreed between the solicitors he refused to sign!
Laughable as I work part time , my pensions arnt great and as he lives abroad I have sole custody of the children. He just wanted to hurt me even more as he said when he stopped paying the mortgage, he would rather the house be reposed thansee me get it.
Well after a believe abollocking from his solicitor we went to court and he signed, didn't get what we were really entitled to and we haven't had a penny in maintenance from day one, a year now but do you know what. Who cares, I'm proud that I have a home, no matter how small, I support my kids with no help from him. Our revenge is we have got on with our lives and are doing ok.
They are alas a law unto themselves, they like to bully and hurt us when they are the ones that left in the first place. Just keep smiling, and remember it's never too late to start again. Xx
My ex has got himself in a huge amount of debt since we split, and from the way he was talking yesterday he wants to be bailed out again, as I used to do throughout our marriage.
Not happening this time.
Bubblegum - yes costs will be small, and I can't see that he would pay them anyway. I have only put minimal hours down for my LIP work but do have disbursements in the low 4 figures I'd like to see back.
Final final hearing will be sometime from July onwards, won't know exactly until we get the court order from yesterday.