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Is it OK (healthy) to hate your STBX +Facebook?

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14 Apr 17 #491112 by Clawed
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Sounds like you're in a fairly good place, I still don't want any contact with my ex even though I'm grateful that he left because I'm happier in a new relationship than I ever thought possible. I don't hate him, I forgive him but I don't want him as a friend even though it's 2.5 years since we split.
As soon as ex said he didn't want us to be a couple any longer I changed my status to single on Facebook and took off the married to bit (I'm a bit of a Facebook junkie).

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14 Apr 17 #491114 by looking_ahead
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Clawed,

Facebook is an interesting one for sure, I've suspended my account to "slow" me down in lashing out, because as OK as I can be sometimes, when she is out with him like she is now................ it still hurts sooooooo much.

long walk for the dogs coming up!

LA

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15 Apr 17 #491119 by polar
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Hate may be one way of looking at it.
Resent what they did might be better.
Yes it took several years to work out what happened . It was like a jigsaw and far to complicated to go into every aspect . Basically I was the chosen one to help her achieve her aims and then I became obsolete.

Yes I became obsolete by year 10 according to all the evidence and then I became the 'stable' one who she came home to but continually and secretly played behind my back for the next 15.

In the early days after she left I was even 'played' by her intentions to come back etc until I slammed the door shut on all communications except through legal channels.

As for facebook ? I closed my account immediately. Why expose yourself to the lies the other half will be telling their friends to justify their actions.

Yep 6 years later I found out that she had told all her friends that the reason she left was because I beat her up. (no telling those friends that she had been screwing their husbands then !!!)

My x used another social platform and when I saw the post I promptly told her solicitor if thats the way it was going to be played then I would expose all. It was removed the next day !!

I found the best way to cope and survive was to remain secretive and let the fact that I had not been destroyed and in fact doing rather well trickle via usual channels.

Its 10 years now less 2 weeks since the split and all I hear are negative reports via my daughter who still has contact.
And my facebook page is under another name !! Hers however is open to all and its not a pretty sight !!

Waste your energy on yourself it will have far better results.

Polar

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