Strawberrypimms good for you!, sounds as though you are well on the way to recovery. You have realised that your life is not over and can get even better, good times ahead.
When the time is right you will meet and fall for someone again, I cant promise it will be perfect but I'm sure because of what you have learnt, it will be even better than you have ever had before.
In the meantime, keep healing, keep turning your pages and watering your garden and if there is a funny smell? it could be your toast burning!!
Oh everything you have said is so me too. Little self confidence in myself with my dipping of my toe back in the water ending with me being told he was leaving me because I had put on weight. Not a very nice man, has definately put me off ever believing there may well be a happy ever after.
I'm three years on now, I have come so far I know I have but yes I miss all of those things and especially just being able to talk about my day.
But I won't give up, I'm a different person to three years ago and even from one year ago. I won't ever settle again, I'm worth more.
We will get there. Maybe there is a prince out there for us again xx
I love these positive posts, I'm very positive at the moment having just got remarried, ok I'm older and wrinklier than first time round and sometimes I wish my new husband could have known me at my best but I still have a lot to offer and let's be honest my new husband shows some signs of age too. I have never been happier and although I don't regret the 34 years I was married to the man I was with from age 15 and had 2 children with I am so grateful to have this new chance and intend to make the most of it. Probably the heartbreak I went through when ex left has made me into a person more able to grasp the moment, life is short and I intend to enjoy what's left.
When I arrived at wikivorce a complete wreck I was reassured by posts telling me I would survive and be happy again, I wasn't convinced at the time but they were right!
Felt that I had to respond to something very important that you wrote in your earlier post.
You said "...ok I'm older and wrinklier than first time round and sometimes I wish my new husband could have known me at my best but I still have a lot to offer..."
I'm sorry that I have to shatter an illusion but, you are "at your best" now, you may be a little older but a few wrinkles, grey hair and a love handle (or two) should be celebrated, they are all badges of honour and a sign of having lived.
The most important point though, you are probably now the very best you could ever be! After getting through a long marriage and then experiencing the devastating break up, the fall out and carnage that followed...but you still survived. Surely you would have grown as a person and a human being, which in turn will probably make you you a better partner/wife than you were before? Your guy is a very lucky man.
Sometimes I wish I could take every recently broken hearted Man and Woman by the hands and convince them that everything is going to be alright, that their incredible pain will go away and that they will one day smile and look forward to the next.
That would be my chosen superpower (along with xray vision...obviously!)
These posts are great. Like every situation, you have to go through it to truly be able to understand.
Being able to get up in the morning and face another day when all you want to do is curl up and pull the covers over your head.
It is so nice to read how far you have come. It gives us wikis who still have a way to go, real hope.
So thank you and we'll done.
I'm glad that you have been encouraged and when you are having a bad day as you surely will, just remember it wont last forever. Not sure who it was, might have been King Solomon? briefly, he asked his advisers to give him something to cling too when times were bad or when he was faced with a stressful situation, after much thought they gave him a ring with the inscription 'This too, shall pass', and they were right! so next time your mind is sending worrying thoughts to you, just remember you have an imaginary ring.
Take care of yourself and keep communicating with your friends and family and the wiki village!