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Here comes the anxiety again

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07 May 17 #491947 by Hatton1
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Lymm,

Firstly I hope your son is ok. That must have been horrendous for both of you.

Quite honestly how dare you offer him a place to stay - clearly outrageous of you to be kind !!!! Mine has twisted everything too and it takes all my strength not to buy into it. Don't let him get to you, concentrate on your son and him getting better. That's all that matters.

I understand completely what you mean about money. I have always been a bit useless budgeting. But I'll get there. I confess I've been cutting my daughters hair but so far ( quite sensibly ) my son is resisting.

Sorry your anxiety levels are up, totally understandable. Just think he will soon be disappearing into the hills again. Stay strong and know you are the better person.

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08 May 17 #491989 by Rob6
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Lymm,

Thanks for the reply. Sorry to hear what you are going through. That's what I hate about the process - one step forward, two back. Just got to keep pushing on...

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08 May 17 #491996 by Mitchum
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Anxiety is a difficult and distressing emotion. My counsellor described how the grief of loss is something a person grows around - so it is always there at the core, but as our world around it expands, so the grief diminishes.

The more opportunities we create for positive experiences now, the less our anxiety becomes.

Don't know if I've explained that well, but I hope it makes sense. I hung onto that thought when the anxiety struck.

Writing a journal helped me. Never thought it would, but it did. Just writing it all down was cathartic. Never read it, just wrote it to get the negative/angry emotions out.

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08 May 17 #492001 by Rob6
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I just hate the anxiety. It is like I’ve been so taken over by the divorce and its aftermath that it seems to colour the rest of my life ie I get stressed about normal everyday tasks that wouldn’t bother me usually. I guess this is part of the stress of the healing process. It seems my mind and body are exhausted but I think eventually the effects will fade and I’ll get back to some kind of equilibrium.

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08 May 17 #492002 by Dotti6157
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Hi Rob
I am told that 'Time heals' let us both hope that time moves on so we can all heal. Good luck my friend

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08 May 17 #492006 by Rob6
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Dotti,

I think we will get there in the end. I hope so.;)

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08 May 17 #492007 by Dotti6157
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we will buddy just keep smiling and let the blue's disappear

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