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14 May 18 #501626 by NoMoreMrs
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Hi All,

I would love to know what distracts you from the doom and gloom?

3 years on and I now feel like giving up. I just want to run and hide from everything and hope for a miracle. Does anyone else feel like this?

I feel I am quite fortunate to not have any feelings for my ex anymore, It's just the finance side I'm struggling with.

I am in so much debt, paying for solicitors seems impossible. My ex and I came to an agreement back in August 2017 and the Consent Order is still on his solicitor's desk waiting to be sent to the court. I just want to scream!!!! It's so frustrating as he has been delaying the whole thing since day dot.

Since we came to the agreement, the house has gone up on value. I feel cheated by this whole process, why are people allowed to take so long?

Rant over. I wish you all good health and happiness.

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14 May 18 #501629 by Clawed
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The delays drove me to distraction too, looking back I wish I had been more relaxed about it, I wasted a lot of unnecessary angst on things I couldn't control and once they were sorted it all seemed so unimportant whether they took 6 months or 12 months but that's only with hindsight. I really do sympathise and hope you get the consent order signed and sealed very soon.

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14 May 18 #501631 by Under60
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If I were you, I would be phoning his solicitor every day since last August demanding to know why they have not sent it in. It won’t cost you a penny to do that.
You could point out that values have now gone up, so require an altered consent order to be drawn up...that might speed them up!
You cannot move on and start life afresh until things are sorted out.
Once there, the worlds your oyster :)

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15 May 18 #501666 by NoMoreMrs
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Hindsight is a wonderful thing. It is an emotional rollercoaster but you soon realise it's not worth the stress.

His solicitor has finally lodged it with the court. I'm so relieved but also praying it doesn't get rejected.

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15 May 18 #501668 by Under60
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That’s great news, you are nearly at the finish line :)

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15 May 18 #501669 by NoMoreMrs
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:):):)

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15 May 18 #501674 by Adrift
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Fingers crossed for you, NoMoreMrs.

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