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Impending court hearing / sleep deprivation

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04 May 21 #516610 by el_johnstone
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hi everyone,

I've got a court "hearing" (its cloud based due to current restrictions) this coming Monday and my stress levels are fluctuating. I go from calm to it being all I can think about and my brain always goes to worst case scenario. The hearing is about the judge rejecting mine and my ex's Consent Order and more recently they (my ex) has proposed a new one giving them a much larger chunk of change. I'm now losing sleep. My friends are being incredibly supportive which is awesome. I had a chat with my solicitor last week and they have advised me to stick to my guns.

I'm feeling thoroughly intimidated by the impending court hearing which I am sure is normal for regular people that don't live in a court room.

Can anyone share any advice / stories about their experiences on this and what I can expect to happen? I'd like to think the district judge or whomever is going to run this hearing is used to regular people being stressed / nervous as hell.

I just want this to be all over and done with.

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05 May 21 #516626 by wikivorce team
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I would recommend that you think now about what deal you will accept on the day.

You will need to make a decision on the day under some considerable pressure about whether to accept some kind of compromise deal or say no and face the case going to court.

The financial remedy procedure for what would then be a contested case would take at least 6 months and cost many thousands of pounds with a solicitor (though there are lower cost ways to get through the process).

So rather than making a very hurried and pressured decision on the day - try to think carefully beforehand so that you have weighed everything up and you have a figure in mind that you will accept.

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