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Saying Yes

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22 Jun 08 #27965 by rubytuesday
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its been a while since I read this book, but eventually managed to pull the title from the dark recesses of my mushy brain! :laugh:

Its called "In Cahoots" by Jane Blanchard

Hope you enjoy reading it!


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22 Jun 08 #27966 by rosiegirl
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What an interesting concept! Think I might try this too.

Hope noone asks me to take on a new job cleaning toilets :cheer:

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22 Jun 08 #27968 by Billie12
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Yes Rosie I recommend it. You may not feel like it be go you may have a good time!
Had a fab day today in Norwich really good! It's strange how people make offers and we routinely say no, my boss sometimes asked me if I want to go into town at lunch time and its easy to say in the office, I have noticed since Sun's posting that I do this... now if she asks ..I'm there, ready by the door - its only half hour out of the office but makes a change.

I am totally going to be saying yes to offers of enjoyment (or what others think is enjoyment).

Thanks for the book title ruby.

big hugs
Carrie x

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22 Jun 08 #27972 by dad2812
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Hey Megan
Your post made me laugh lots and as i av had a crap weekend it was nice to finish it with a smile

Dad2812 (steve) :lol:

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22 Jun 08 #27979 by ScotBob
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Must admit to having done a U-turn since we agreed to separate. Before I was happy to stay in most nights, kids in bed, laptop etc. while she went off and visited mates or took walks.

Now I'm out every Monday evening visiting friends, have been invitated for a couple of nights out - both of which have been great fun, and have just booked a ticket to see my fave Cyndi Lauper in October - my first concert in 12 years!

So, not accepting all offers, but certainly taking advantage of the better ones :cheer:

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23 Jun 08 #28002 by tinkerbell123
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This is such a positive post - which is good. Hub left 1 month ago after having an affair for 3 months - married 14years next week but I firmly believe a door shuts yet a window opens. And although I am distraught, devastated and want to lose myself I have managed to push myself to get out of bed in the morning and be happy for kids i know that we all have an opportunity here to find laughter love and friends. What do you think? reread this and think that i sound hardhearted which i am totally not.

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23 Jun 08 #28019 by jelly4toes
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has anyone had to deal with the following feelings that i struggle with as far as going out is concerned.I never went anywhere with ex2b for the 22yrs.school ,work,supermarket.i started to believe that i did not deserve to be with other people and i still feel like this it is keeping me stuck.but the feelings are so very strong and to be honest i now believe these crap thoughts even if i know on an intellectual level that they are true.I am not sure how to move forward with this problem.

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