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23 Jun 08 #28209 by feelingsad
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I know some of you will frown upon me for doing this and I know I won't gain anything by doing it, apart from satisfaction!! but I would like to send a pair of my stbx husbands sperm stained boxer shorts that he left for me to wash onto his new girlfriend.

I don't have her home address but I do have her works which i would stick a label on for the addressee only....

Am I out of order or can some of you understand just why I'm feeling the need to do this?:blush:

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23 Jun 08 #28215 by spooky
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Have you been drinking???? My rule is if you are going to do something you could potentially regret later - don't do it!!!! I can completely understand your need to do this but my mantra has always been " serene and dignified at all times"

Rise above it,chin up and try to smile at least once a day.

Burn the boxers (he'll never dare to ask for them back!! )

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23 Jun 08 #28222 by roseanne
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Feeling sad
Absolutely totally understand how you feel and why you want to do it.

Don't. Will give other side more ammunition. Will mark you as a nutter.

Life and divorce is not fair you have to be seen to be playing the game

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23 Jun 08 #28226 by megan
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I can see where your coming from sad but in the end I agree with Spooky.

I used to plan such things, was going to send an open e-mail to his department after having to have sti checks when he slept with us both ( unknown to me at the time of course) .
Wanted to let his tyres down when I found his car at his sisters and found she had been staying there too and they had gone out in her car.

But in the end it would have been me that looked bitter and twisted and he would have got more angry and she would have said "told you she was a fruit cake"

So as Spooky said raise above it if you can.

I did send a few e-mails which, lets say I should have thought about. So what I then did was write them save them to draft and keep for 24hours, most didn't get sent in the end but it helped to write it down.

Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

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23 Jun 08 #28229 by chrisjoy
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Don't do it! They're not worth the postage stamp. It may go against you. I often think of doing similar things but then it would look like I care and I don't anymore.

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23 Jun 08 #28230 by Angel557
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Tbh feeling sad its 30 seconds of satisfaction and yrs of regret, don't lower yourself to his level.

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24 Jun 08 #28234 by tricia079
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Don't do it. It's not worth it. She could say that you are harrassing her and get the police involved. Bin or burn them.

Anyway you won't see her opening them and she may make a big joke of it at work and get everyone to believe that you are a fruit cake.

BUT you can enjoy the mental image of her opening the package before you bin or burn them

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