Call me niaive but I didn’t realise that you need to have ‘grounds’ for divorce. A search on the internet suggests that the below reasons are ‘grounds’ for a divorce.
2. Unreasonable behaviour
3. Desertion (this ground can no longer be used in Scotland)
4. Two-year separation in England and Wales or one-year in Scotland, when the other party consents to a divorce
5. Five-year separation in England and Wales or two-year in Scotland, in which case no consent is needed.
Although I am sure she believes my behaviour is unreasonable she has so far failed to convince any of our family and friends, in fact to the best of my knowledge, they all tell her that she is being unreasonable. Reasons 3,4 and 5 are out so that only leaves 1. I did commit adultery in 1976 (I was young, foolish and drunk on hormones). The question is, how far back can she go?
Just one small adjustment - in Scotland, you can divorce after 12 months seperation, if both parties consent, otherwise, it is a 2 year sep without consent from both parties, as you say. The laws here changed recently.(sorry, I know Im being a bit pedantic here!)
As far as I know, any acts of UB must have taken place within the previous six months prior to petitioning, this would, I imagine also apply to adultery - if you committed adultery back in 1976 (32 years ago), the courts would assume that she had forgiven you, as you continued to maintain your marraige for a further 32 years.
Forgiven me - no she never forgave me, I did sometimes wonder whether she should have thanked me because that gave her the moral high ground for 32 years. Some years back she asked me how I would have felt if she'd committed adultery. I quickly weighed the pain of rejection against the years of milking it and pay back and told her I wished she had!