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28 Jun 08 #29459 by Roobarb
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Well I had hoped that my divorce would be amicable, how naive was I! Found out my husband is having an affair with a woman at work (he works away so spends fourteen weeks with her, then fourteen weeks with me), he came home two months ago saying he "loved me, but not in that way"??? and wanted a divorce! Well I've suspected for sometime that something was going on but was too afraid to say anything as he can get quite hostile. Well I now have proof, in the form of emails.

He's apparently planning to set up home with this women and start a family, this after us trying for a baby for a couple of years, then when I begged him to seek medical help he turned around and told me he had decied he didn't want children!

My question is, does the fact that he's having a serious relationship with someone else and planning to set up home with her and start a family effect any financial settlement I might get? If it doesn't I'll keep quiet to avoid the 'fallout', but if it does then it changes things completely. We've been married 11 1/2 years, his net income £2000 per month, my net income £692 per month, he has a naval pension and there is £150,000 (approx.) equity in our house.

Many thanks x

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28 Jun 08 #29467 by dawn1
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hi, yes it does affect the financial side as your x's new partners wages will release more of his to pay you spousal maintenance.
this will only be taken into account if he has moved in with her though so tread carefully and use it only if you have proof that he is cohabiting.
the starting point for the courts is a 50/50 split on assets and liabilities this obviously includes his and you pensions, you can offset the right to your share of the pension by giving less equity from the house.
i dont know if you will receive much on spousal maintenance that you will have to post seperately.
kind regards

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