divorce...help and tips please

my stbx now wants a divorce and thats fine with me. ive told her i cant afford it, the 5 years seperation will be up in september and shes pressing for it now.......my question is? is it better to get contact sorted before divorce? or doesnt it matter?

i belive there is a section in the divorce papers that says things about children and ive also heard that whatever i put in there doesnt hold up in court weather i see him regularly or not.

so does it make a difference if we are divorced or not? is there anything i should be aware of? or put in the Petition when i get it?

im happy to divorce but i dont want to get caught out on anything i might regret later.
i dont want anything of hers and she doesnt want anything of mine.

but as im still having this regular contact dissagreement with my ex. i dont want the wool pulled over my eyes.

any help would be greatfull.

i know i have said i cant afford it, but if i can get some help on this i would be great full.

chats

After the court receives the application for divorce you will be served the papers and you then have 8 days to return the acknowledgement. There is no point in procrastination, it just wastes time, money and causes unnecessary acrimony.

When there are children there is a statement of arrangements so the court can ensure that adequate arrangements are in place at the time of divorce. The statement isn''t legally binding and often arrangements change as children reach different stages and/or parents commitments change. If the arrangements cannot be agreed in the statement the court may not grant the divorce until the matter has been settled.

thanks fiona, does that include contact arrange ments, christas, holidays etc?