Right i found it and read the whole thread, what Had says makes perfect sense and she is one of the top AR advisers on Wiki, no doubt about that.
There are some concerns though, the big one being if this progresses to a final hearing it is a gamble, its down to the opinion of a judge, for this reason alone take notice of what the judge has to say at FDR, i assume you are paying privately so you know how much this all costs, a final hearing can be very expensive, only a month ago a guy paid 22k for the final hearing with similar assets and income to your matter, ok a bit more in terms of joint assets but you get the picture.
Another concern is the judge may well take the opinion that some agreement was made back in 2004 over the land, this is actually the largest asset at 180k, if this happens your potential settlement will be greatly reduced.
The way to approach these hearings is to show a need, the first being housing, so what is your need?, what did you have in capital needs in form E
, your respective housing needs are met, this tends to be the biggest potential need, i suppose what i am saying is you are asking for 80k, why do you need that amount.
I dare say the other side will paid you as greedy and attempting a second bite of the cherry, don`t be surprised if they suggest your current position is due to the fact you kept leaving and buying and selling, she came back then left came back again and then left again so its you who caused your relatively poor position compared with your husband who stayed put.
I in no way suggest the above is true but to be fore warned is to be fore armed.
It could go one of two ways,
The judge says you were paid for the land back in 2004, your not entitled to anymore, you walk away with not a lot.
The judge decides you both stayed married no proceedings were instigated, no Separation Agreement
and most importantly you have no consent order, as such after a long marriage and given the land is over and above housing needs you get x amount, probably half of its value.
Now your sitting there thinking this bloke talks bollocks, the judge must abide by mca s23(1), and yes they do but its very much down to how the judge on the days views the so called facts and who is actually telling the truth, you say during the time from 2004 to 2011 you both lived together for five years, he may argue it was much more sporadic than that, you know for example he promised to give you some money if he sold any of the land, he now says your not being honest, do you see the problem?.
I`m sure counsel have given you some idea of a likely outcome, but lets say it all goes wrong, you walk away with nothing like what you expected and counsel say lets appeal.
Hoop jumping time,
An appeal will only be successful if you can show,
The judgment was perverse (totally unfair)
The judge made an error in law (very rare)
The other side did not disclose income or assets that would have materially changed the judgment
Appeals are time sensitive, usually you have 28 days (it does vary) and they tend to be cost sensitive, if you lose you pay the other sides legal bill, oh and they can take forever.
So you can end up with a judgment and the barrister says well that bits wrong and the judge forgot to take this bit into account ect, it means nothing though, the fact is the appeal judge needs to decide that the order was not in line with what you could expect another district judge to order.
Many appeals are successful but more are not, those that are often become case law, there seems to be an almost standard letter circuit judges send out saying district judge so and so has held the position for x years and has a most excellent reputation, its a nice way of saying bog off if you go through with the appeal ill be the bloke shooting the fish in the barrel.
Listen carefully to what the judge has to say at FDR and then have a chat with your barrister, with any luck your ex will offer a reasonable settlement and all of this will be wasted typing.
Here`s hoping eh.