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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

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being married to a squaddie

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02 Apr 12 #321130 by sissyg1969
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Hi All
I wonder if anyone could help me (i hope so)
I was married to a soldier for nearly 19 years (still not divorced living apart) and he wont give a figure on his wage or his pension any ideas on how i can find this out, so i can then make a maintence claim and go to CSA. Because he has just cut our payments in half and i could now loose our rented accomadation.
thank you
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02 Apr 12 #321135 by Bobbinalong
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If you are going to the csa you don''t need to know, they will find out, as for the pension, that would be taken into account as part of your divorce settlement, again if it were, you wouldn''t need to find out, sols etc would.
When you say he has cut your payments in half, we would need more info, as there would be a reason for him doing this.
Was he paying you the normal amount he would when at home? Is he now paying cm? Do you have kids at home?

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02 Apr 12 #321139 by sissyg1969
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Hi, the payments were 700, now 400, this includes 275 for our son 16, still in education.

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02 Apr 12 #321155 by mumtoboys
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do you have any idea what he earns?

the problem with going to the CSA is that it''ll get his back up. If you have a rough idea of what he earns, you can run this through the CSA calculator and see if he''s paying about the right amount. The CSA can only enforce maintenance for your son and it would seem he is also paying you some maintenance for yourself? That isn''t enforceable unless you get it all signed and sealed as part of the divorce.

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02 Apr 12 #321164 by sissyg1969
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He is earning in the region of 45k + a year and yes it will be part of settlement if he ever tells the truth

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02 Apr 12 #321171 by timetoheal
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If he is earning 45k his weekly take home pay would be approx £629/wk (assuming he does not make pension contributions from his pay being a squaddie)
If you have one child in full time education the CSA would (as far as I know) calculate his child support at 15% of this (assuming the child stays with him less than 52 nights/yr) which would be approximately £94/week which works out at just over £400 per month.
If your figures are correct the CSA will be unlikely to be able to get you any more money as they only deal with child support.
If there is a large difference between what you earn and what your husband earns you will need to look for spousal maintenance and this will usually mean getting good legal advice.

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02 Apr 12 #321177 by sissyg1969
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Thank you very much for that excellent advice, I''m onto my solicitor as we speak
Thank you

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