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Can I stop him spending all his money ?

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02 Apr 12 #321165 by xxxxhelpxxxx
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As the title says, can I stop him spending all his money.

For instance he has spent £200 on an iron, £150 on an ironing board, £800 on a satnav system for his car and I believe he is looking at £2000 fridges (and possibly ordered one this weekend) and £300 vacuums. I don''t know if he is deliberately spending money so there is nothing left or whether he is such a k**b that he just wants the best (I suspect a combination of the two).

His finances are a total mess. He is the director of his own company and hasn''t done any accounts for about 3 years. He will owe VAT personal tax and company tax when he finally does get around to doing the accounts.

He does not contribute to our children yet (15 & 18) and has already told them that he is not going to pay for the older one even though she is still in education.

I know that as a self employed director he will probably get away with not paying maintenance because he can "hide" all his money.

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02 Apr 12 #321168 by perin123
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I know that as a self employed director he will probably get away with not paying maintenance because he can "hide" all his money.


Hmmmmm sounds familiar......

I don''t think you can stop him, I know my ex has spent all our money he had in his ISA!!

If there is a way I hope you find one!!

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02 Apr 12 #321174 by Action
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I don''t think you can stop him but I believe that the reckless spending would be taken into account if the matter gets to court - our Mediator said that an adjustment of the asset split can be made by the judge according to what has been spent.

I had a similar problem with my STBX - has his own company but has made sure he''s now not earning (he''s actually on benefits!) but last year spent money like you wouldn''t believe. Expensive HiFi, four holidays etc. All the spending should be traceable in the paperwork with form E but keep a record of anything that you can, and also evidence of your own, presumably more frugal, spending. They''ll try all sorts of tricks but I don''t think this one is going to help his case so just watch him dig himself a deeper hole to fall into.

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02 Apr 12 #321203 by dukey
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A person can be stopped from wasting or hiding money but he seems to be buying household goods which may be seen as perfectly reasonable, if you are worried about large sums going missing you can apply for a S37 prevention of dissipation of assets order, but these are far from easy and can be very expensive.

As was said earlier your best bet is to have the spending taken into account after the fact as it were, during the usual proceedings.

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02 Apr 12 #321229 by Stingrayj
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200 Quid on an iron and 150 for an ironing board???? Were they gold plated ones?
Can''t see how these are reasonable prices for those type of household items! :blink:

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03 Apr 12 #321473 by xxxxhelpxxxx
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You would think they would be gold plated but they''re not!!

He took my iron to look at and started on Amazon and of course they have other suggestions for what he might like to buy. He loves gadgets and the more expensive the better. He ended up buying a steam generator (for half a dozen shirts a week) and a top of the range ironing board that sucks and blows air!! I didn''t even know something like that existed. And I have had to make do with the same knackered one for 15 years!!

He hasn''t bought a £2000 fridge yet because he needs to do some building work in the kitchen to accommodate it!! So he is "making do" with a normal sized one.

He has bought a £350 Dyson Ball though.

I suppose I will just have to keep an eye on what is happening and keep a note of "excessive" spending. £900 on a DVD satnav system is what I would call excessive. He doesn''t go anywhere to justify it and he has a good stereo system in his car. Just a standalone satnav would have sufficed (even though there is nothing wrong with the old one!!).

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03 Apr 12 #321478 by Action
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Well I hope his gadgets make him very happy - sad man! Just thinking of him with his high tech ironing board makes me want to laugh and I don''t even know the man. Sounds as if using the local dry cleaner''s laundry service would have been more cost effective, but please keep in mind just where his brain is at the moment.

Keep strong and try to see the funny side when you can.

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