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Can I stop him spending all his money ?

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03 Apr 12 #321479 by xxxxhelpxxxx
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It makes me laugh as well (most of the time). It makes the children laugh as well - they think he is a bit pathetic really. His thoughts definitely are somewhere else at the moment (many places in fact!!).

I hope all of his gadgets make him happy when he realises that he may have to sell the house because everyone wants his money (not just me).

I have moved out into a rented house that is clean and reasonably tidy and not full of all his "stuff". I love it even though it is not mine and it is full of boxes of stuff for the time being. When I pop back into the old house I realise just how bad it had got, even more so now that I am not there to tidy up!!

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03 Apr 12 #321506 by Action
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How you''re feeling about your new place sounds really positive. I''ve dug my heels in not moving into rented - he left the FMH very quickly but then wanted me to move into rented too so we could let the house to save money. It has been my safe place and I just couldn''t cope with the upheaval. I''ve moved on emotionally in the last 17 months and am now looking forward to having my own, albeit very modest, place.

I wonder if your husband is setting all his new toys against his tax, like mine tried to do.

BTW - your thread heading should be ''Can I stop him spending all OUR money''.

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03 Apr 12 #321512 by WhiteRose
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*splutter* :ohmy:£350.00 for iron & ironing board???

Is it gold plated and diamond encrusted? (Stingray - took the words out of my mouth)

Sheeeeesh - I could give him a lesson or two in thrift!

As for not paying towards the children grrrrrrrrrrr :angry:

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07 Apr 12 #322223 by xxxxhelpxxxx
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He has not volunteered anything towards upkeep of the children. TO be a bit fair, one of them is too old, one of them splits their time and the other lives with me and can''t stand him.

He is now pleading poverty to the children citing "having to resurrect the house" as being his reason for not having any money. By this I presume he means replacing the items I took with me (cooking utensils, ingredients he would never have used, some implements, the fridge and freezer), and maybe even spending some money on the decor of the house which has been neglected for the last 20 years.

He has spent £90 on 3 knives as well!!! I might go back in and take "my" chair. He has been tidying up and has moved all evidence of me, the youngest and the grandson from downstairs.

I went round today on the off chance that he wasn''t there but unfortunately he was there, with the tart and baby. That hurt soo much seeing her and him in "our" house. I sat in the car and howled :(

How the bloddy hell do you deal with that? By coming down on him financially like a ton of bricks I think :)

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07 Apr 12 #322233 by Action
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I cannot begin to imagine how much that must have hurt to see him with OW in your home. The only way I''ve coped with the difficult stuff is to believe in Karma - he will get what he deserves at some point. Why people behave this way, I just do not understand.

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07 Apr 12 #322236 by xxxxhelpxxxx
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I hope karma will come and bite him in the arris soon enough.

I don''t think there is anything I can do to stop her being in the house. If there was I would do it.

He might be in a relationship with her but it is not an exclusive relationship!!

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