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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

Mediation/ CSA (self employed)etc

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03 Apr 12 #321363 by Saffs
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My ex cancelled our last mediation and told mediator that he no longer wished to continue. In the same week he told me he was not going to pay CM until he had heard from CSA. (I have had one payment this year). He is self employed and on CSA calculation from his accounts last year he has been asked to pay £50 a week (for 3 children). He has effectively halved his earnings and not declaring his true income.
Yesterday mediator called and said he wishes to continue to have mediation to discuss finances (!!). I am tired of the bollox and would rather have less CM than have the monthly stress of asking if he is going to contribute and the emotional abuse that accompanies any communication he has with me.
So far he has not agreed anything in mediation. He has positive contact...alternate weekends and one night a week but the finances continue to "be made up".
Is it worth doing another mediation for him to drag this out longer and then still possibly not agree to anything??

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03 Apr 12 #321365 by MrsMathsisfun
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Personally if you think that mediation isnt going to work because he isnt being honest about his accounts. I would call it a day and start court proceedings, at least then he would have to show a court what the actual financial situation is.

Who applied to the CSA? It my understanding that maintenance payments can be back dated to the date of application.

What is the situation regarding FHM?

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03 Apr 12 #321372 by Saffs
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I applied for CSA after 7 months of ad hoc payments. Wish I had done it 18 months ago as his accounts have been nicely altered now.
I still live in the FMH and have paid the mortgage (in full for the first year with family help) but am now just paying interest only.
Am so stressed about finances.
How nightmarish would it be to self represent for finances initially using a sol when necessary. Am feeling a bit out of my depth but literally do not have one penny to spare.

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