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04 Apr 12 #321613 by strongerthanithought
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Briefly, Kids have only seen dad 6 times since he took me to court last summer because he didn''t want me to take them abroad for a fortnights'' holiday. Usual tale of me being the wicked witch when I have to let them know time and time again that dad''s let them down and they''re not going to see him AGAIN.

Tried getting him to commit to having them this weekend, by text and email, he would only have them if I agreed to drive them (300 mile round trip) to his house and collect them (600 miles in one weekend I don''t think so!!) instead of meeting half way as per agreement. Turns out I am lazy, waste of a life and I''ve ruined my kids lives by moving them so far away (from him and his family who we never saw, closer to all my family and friends who I wasn''t allowed to see for years).
Eldest was sat on my knee when that text came through, he disagrees!
Followed by horrifically abusive phone call in which I was again called all manner of names, I hung up and re-texted that I will not respond to such abuse.

Got a text this morning apologising for the language and behaviour (I know he had help to compose it - there are no spelling mistakes and the grammar is good). This is so unbelievably out of character that I''m now in a quandry as to what he''s playing at...

Moral highground is a good place to be most of the time, but I feel like I''m waiting for the clouds to lift and be faced with god-knows-what on his next scheme of mind games and abuse... :-(

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04 Apr 12 #321617 by cookie2
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It does not matter what he says. It''s what he DOES that matters. Words mean nothing; actions speak volumes. See if he is prepared to back his words up with actions.

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