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BF Divorcing woried about costing

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13 Apr 12 #323457 by Donnabum
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Hi Guys,
I''d appreciate any advice.
So, my bf is planning on divorcing his wife. They have been seperated for over 6 months. She still won''t accept that they are over.

1- If he files for divorce, can she just ignore the papers or does she have to fill them in?
2-If she disputes the divorce, would that cost us anything extra?
3-What can she demand in way of financial settlement? (Background: He worked FT, she PT. She has quit her job due to the stress of him leaving and has moved back down south to be with friends. When he left he was "allowed" to take the car and clothes. She had everything else. He had debts in his name but they were accrued by both of them)

I think that is it so far, I''m sure I will end up asking more Qs tho.
Cheers guys

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13 Apr 12 #323470 by cookie2
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1. She can ignore them if she wants but your BF can get a divorce regardless. He does not require her cooperation (although it does make the process simpler). He can still get a divorce even if she puts all correspondence in the bin.

2. Contesting a divorce is a waste of time and money, and is extremely rare. It is very unlikely she will dispute it in court. If she does then your BF could quite easily represent himself so it would not cost much.

3. This depends on many many factors, if you read the sticky threads on this and the Ancillary Relief forums then you will see what they are. There is no "formula".

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13 Apr 12 #323478 by Shoegirl
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Honestly if she is still in a bad way and six months in it may still be raw is to let your boyfriend sort it out with his wife. She will sense your influence a mile off. This will make it worse.

Take a back seat would be my advice as its his divorce.

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13 Apr 12 #323486 by Donnabum
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Thanks Cookie2, some really useful info there.

Shoegirl-I think you''ve got me all wrong. I am not influencing my bf, just simply finding info for him. If he has all the correct info he can make an informd decision as to what he is going to do next. The divorce is down to him and his ex

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13 Apr 12 #323488 by somuch2know2
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if the ex doesnt know about you- keep it that way. They go a bit crazy when there is another woman on the scene and it will be 100x more painful and expensive than it needs to be. In the meantime be is researcher, his rock, his best-mate as he is going to need it.

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13 Apr 12 #323490 by Donnabum
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Cheers for that somuch2know2. Appreciated!

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