I should have made the decision to Divorce my STBX about 5 years ago but kept hoping things would change.I realised there was no hope when he said he didn''t want a Divorce but couldn''t be bothered trying to work on putting things right!Say''s it all really.I had 2 choices put up with things as they were and keep being miserable or get out and hope things would be better on my own.So far I feel much better than I did having made the decision to go for a Divorce but I so wish I hadn''t needed to.
Wen I finally made the decision it felt Sooo good for me. Novelty wears off., reality sets in, really sh* *y... But one of the best decisions I have ever made, no regrets. I m hoping it will get easier in time.
I''ve been married twice - BOTH husbands used to tell me ''the marriage is over'' every time there was a row. I would fall apart. In both cases, my moment of enlightenment was exactly the same. The last time each of them said that to me... I didn''t fall apart. That''s when I knew I was done.
I''ve only said that twice in my life (once to each) and what is very interesting to me is that, ultimately, neither husband wanted to divorce...