Sincere thanks to everyone who responded to my post, which was very helpful and supportive to me. I am putting all my emotional devestation at not only my marriage ending but also following on from the death of both my parents who I cared for and loved very dearly, to one side. I am now concentrating on getting all the evidence of my financial support and work over 20 years together into a financial spreadsheet to look at what is a fair settlement with my solicitor. I also believe strongly in Karma and I loved him but now realise I let this get in the way of letting him exploit me emotionally and financially. I have always been an optimist- but have been through some dark days recently- but also know I am very lucky that I have got lots of very good friends who are there for me…..so thanks again and back to work on the finances!