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My wife recently left

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18 Apr 12 #324720 by mattyh
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Please could anyone advise
My wife left unexpectantly 4 weeks ago and threatened to remove all marital possesions from the home.
We met a week ago and she handed back her house keys and rings.
Since then i have changed the locks to protect myself and my son from returning home to find marital possesions removed.
Any i within my rights to change the locks after she has handed the keys back?
Now she is threatening forced entry or for a locksmith to attend.
I know i really need legal advice but i cant afford it at the moment.
Anyone got any experience of this??
M

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18 Apr 12 #324722 by cookie2
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If she gave her key back then how does she know you''ve changed the locks? She kept a secret copy??

However, she does have a right to enter and live in the marital home if she so wishes, and after only 4 weeks this right will remain intact. But she may well be bluffing. I would tell her to take a hike, and not give her the new key. If she does force entry then there''s not much you can do, but really, a lot of people who say this are full of hot air.

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18 Apr 12 #324732 by flowerofscotland
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Hi mattyh,

Be careful, she does have the right to access if her name is on the mortgage and the deeds. Regardless if you have changed the locks or not, she will get in if she wants to.

I changed the locks on my home and my STBX ''entered'' and removed all our marital assets, without my permission or knowledge. Nearly two years on I am fighting a long and costly legal battle to have them returned and valued in order to get a fair and equal division of marital assets. He knew what he was doing and in turn has made my life hell!

Have the entire contents that you think she may be after recorded in photographic evidence, dates and times etc, especially as in my case if they are worth a considerable amount of money.

Take care for now FoS x

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18 Apr 12 #324749 by hawaythelads
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Grey area she has the right to entry.Could even have the right to live there.However you also have the right to privacy.So can make it just as awkward for her to return.By saying if she wants access she''ll have to go to court.Or that she can have access at an agreed time.My advice now she''s out leave her out make it awkward.
All the best
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18 Apr 12 #324753 by happyagain
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Yes, she does have right of entry as it is her house as well. However, she has returned her keys and from that you can assume she no longer wants to live there. In this situation, offer her a time that she can come and collect what she requires, although there is an expectation that nothing required by the children would be taken (this would include items of furniture they would use, such as the sofa or dining table).
As others have said, document anything she takes and make sure a third party is present when she arrives in case any arguments should break out.
You do have a right of privacy and, although I am sure she would gain right of entry, your private life with your son would trump this which is why she would need to stick to an agreed time. Otherwise, turning up with a locksmith could be seen as intimidating behaviour.

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18 Apr 12 #324756 by mattyh
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She gave back her keys and informed me she longer wished to live here and had found alternative accomodation.
Throughout that week she came and collected all personal belongings, clothes, jewellery etc.
After that i changed the locks, but yes she has been back since and really kicked off.
Ive had a letter saying that i must agree to her coming back and taking exactly what she wants?!
Leaving me and my son at home without even a plate to eat our dinner off.
The dorr is dead bolted but a locksmith will be able to enter.
Im not sure how to stop her just taking what she wants.
I cant be there the whole time, i have to work.
Shes also said that she wants half my pension, spouse maintenance (which is definately hot air), her ring back and to take the car.
It seems ridiculous.
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18 Apr 12 #324759 by mattyh
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Thank you everybody
Feels a little better just getting it off my chest and hearing others point of views.

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