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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


can anyone advise please

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19 Apr 12 #325031 by julesgy
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hi everyone i know this may sound a bit silly but i was wondering if someone could help today i received a copy of his solicitors letter to mine and it is asking "whether it has been indicated that Mrs b (me) shall be consenting to the divorce on the grounds provided in the same (ie ub - but hes the adulterer) if not please inform us if there are any amendments your client (me) wishes to make to the Petition and we shall take our clients instructions on the same to enable to progress as swiftly as possible "
my question is ''is it normal to ask whether i iam agreeing because i thought that hed just put the papers in and then id respond its just that i told him (stbx)hed lied on the petition and to get my own back i told him that i would not divorce him and hed have to wait 5 yrs i know that may sound silly to some but i was angry at the time (i have other posts explaining what he''d done ) anyway i know i may have gone on a bit here but couldnt think of a shorter way of putting it !! sorry
anyway the question once again is this the normal procedure ??? justwondering
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19 Apr 12 #325036 by cookie2
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Yes it is normal etiquette to send a draft Petition. (He''s not under any obligation to listen to any objections you may have, though...)

Best response: "I will not contest the divorce petition as long as no costs claim is made".

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19 Apr 12 #325040 by julesgy
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hi cookie2
thanks for that - ''no costs claim'' ? could he try and make me pay for the divorce ?

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19 Apr 12 #325042 by cookie2
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Yes, he could. It''s quite common to say the above... basically that you will make his life easy (cooperate with his petition) if he does not claim costs.

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19 Apr 12 #325043 by julesgy
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oh ok thanks for that

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