Hi, cutting a long story short, my ex behaves innapropriately for eg making digs about me to the kids. At the moment, although I find it tricky, I am doing my best to ignore it as I think he wants a reaction. Am I doing the right thing? Also any advice on what to say to the kids as I know they should not be in this position? Lastly any advice on how to deal with the stress I feel from all of this generally.
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hey blue, I know how you feel about this.
I get the same.
Best advice is to ignore it.
My ex and her mother keep reminding my daughter, 8, she is X ( ex''s Maiden Name and not a X my name) we were married 3 months after she was born! How cruel to subject a small mind to this? what about her brother what does that make him, thats if her school friends dont call her a b8888stard anyhow?
You cannot stop this happening as such, but just ignore it, smile sweetly.
When the kids ask me about stuff, like why we split up, they tell me silly stuff mum says like I threw plates!! huh? I just say to my daughter have you ever known me throw plates, she says no, so I say best thing in this life is stick to what you know to be fact or truth, ignore anything else, I will explain the rest to you when you are old enough to understand.
they accept that, one of you needs to be the adult, looks like its you.