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ex-husband ignoring ALL my lawers letters

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24 Apr 12 #326206 by newmumhere
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what can i do?? He appeared to have a lawyer when we first seperated as I have received one letter from them back in January 2012.

Since then, my lawyer has sent 3 letters and he appears to be ignoring them all.

He was someone who liked to take control of everything, still tries to by sending me long emails with his demands, which I promptly send onto my lawyer for their action.

Hope someone can advise me.

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30 Apr 12 #327533 by Birdlegs
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Im in the same position stbx was the one who wanted divorce back in August 2010 and now he is ignoring letters from my solicitor. Just received first bill from solicitor for £963.00 and still no further on.

Solicitor did say maybe we will have to send a writ through the courts but I dont want to incur any additional costs so stuck at the moment.

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30 Apr 12 #327535 by blonde cazza
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i too have had the same my solictors bill is 1,500 and still feel ive got no where! x

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30 Apr 12 #327549 by newmumhere
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thanks for your reply. thankfully i have legal aid for advice and assistance but i think i will have to go down the court route aswell. he is the one that left and then said, lets do this without lawyers......huh, i dont think so!!

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30 Apr 12 #327550 by Stingrayj
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Mine has done the same...it''s been going on 18 months now and now ignoring court orders. He thinks he will break me down so I will accept his pathetic offer after 21+ years.
I am down....I don''t know how I will survive until Final Hearing but I will hang on. I know what his game is and he isn''t going to beat me :)

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01 May 12 #327593 by Swedechick
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I had the same problem my stbx filed for the divorce then when it came for him to apply for the decree nisa he just halted,this went on for a year in the end I paid £45 to dismiss the proceedings,then filed for my own divorce,my stbx ignored all the paperwork my solicitor and courts sent him,he too was a control person,so I hired a process server which cost me £100 worth every penny,cos papers were served on him,he ignored them papers too,I had to wait 30 days for my solicitor to be able to apply for the Decree Nisi with the prove of the process server that he had received the papers,my nisi date is 17th May,I wasnt going to let him have all the control so yes there is a light at the end of the tunnel so my advise is pay for a process server

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01 May 12 #327616 by fedup70
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my stbx also ignored letters, he also ignored paperwork from the courts, i asked my solicitor to write to him and say that if he continues to ignore all correspondencs we will ask for my costs to be paid by him. Suddenly he responded by saying he never recieved any paper work !! we know he did as i saw paperwork in his home when i collected myson after contact, happily now all paperwork has been recieved by the courts and now im waiting for my decree Nisi, he will however incur all my costs!!!

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