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25 Apr 12 #326411 by pinkminx
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I would appreciate any thoughts on the impact a divorce may have on my baby news.

I am a 41 year old woman who was desperate for children with my husband. We never got as far as having children as my husband was more committed to his job.

My husband left me over 6 months ago, another woman was involved and husband told me about 6 weeks ago that he is issuing divorce proceedings though I am yet to receive the papers.

When he left I was crushed and the worst things for me was realising that any hope I had for a family was gone. Then I realised that I could obtain sperm donation privately and I have just discovered that I am now pregnant with my first child. I am ecstatic but worried how my stbx might react should he discover.

The question I want to ask is how this might be viewed by courts. Could my husband potentially divorce me for Adultery (should he find out)even though we have been separated for 7 months? Will it make a divorce more difficult, even though he is definitely not the father?

All advice and opinions appreciated.

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25 Apr 12 #326415 by WhiteRose
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Congratulations! :cheer:

It must still be fairly early in your pregnancy?

If you haven''t received a Petition from him, you can certainly put one in yourself to gat the ball rolling.

Not sure how sperm donation is viewed in a Divorce. He can''t cite Adultery as intercourse has to take place for this and no doubt you''ve got your medical records showing the donation details.

Even though you''ve wanted children for so long, when your baby arrives the reality of coping with a demanding baby by yourself with little sleep can be hard to cope with, I hope you have supportive family/friends around you. Also finances can get very tight, make sure you contact the CAB to ensure you receive all the benefits available.

Take care


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