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My ex is an idiot

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25 Apr 12 #326516 by Dazed
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Ah - so things have been better of late. Have kept contact with ex to a minimum & stopped seeking out information about him & OW.

Just got back from a week''s holiday & feeling pretty positive.

Out of the blue I have just had an email from ex who appears to be on yet another 3 week golf holiday with OW. Exactly the same holiday we used to go on!

He wanted to share something with me - excitement mounted...I wondered what it was...

was it that he finally has the money to pay for our divorce? perhaps our overseas property has sold & I can get my name off the mortgage of the ex FMH?

perhaps even that he has the money to repay me for the counselling we had which I paid for 2 years ago?

no, silly me - he was emailing me from Arizona specifically to tell me he had scored his first hole in one. He then described which hole it was knowing I would remember & then what shot he made, with which club & how long the shot was right down to the point it dribbled into the hole.

What an utter prat. Does he really think I''m going to reply & say "oh well done - one of your great life ambitions achieved. I''m so happy for you & on a course we played together for years. oh happy day"

I put the email exactly where it needed to go - in the recycle bin.

He''s lost the plot I think.

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25 Apr 12 #326518 by Mitchum
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And idiot is the best name you can come up with? You need to enrol immediately at Hawaythelads College for the course in apt names for exes!

Get on with your life and leave them to it. Got it in one?

Mitchum xx

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25 Apr 12 #326521 by cookie2
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Dazed wrote:

Does he really think I''m going to reply & say "oh well done - one of your great life ambitions achieved. I''m so happy for you & on a course we played together for years. oh happy day"

Haha - that is exactly what I would reply!!! And maybe add that his prize money when he wins the US Open can go towards getting the divorce. Me, sarcastic? Nooooo never :)

I can''t see him and the OW lasting very long if his first reaction to getting a hole in one is to email his ex wife about it.....

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25 Apr 12 #326530 by livinginhope
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I think you are being petty and jealous just because you didn''t score a hole in one!;)
That''s exactly what my now ex would do tell me all about his triumph.He wants to tell me every detail about a weekend break he is going on and expects me to be interested.He should team up with your ex,they would go well with each other!

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25 Apr 12 #326532 by jjones123
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I totally agree with what Cookie said about not lasting with the OW. Bizarre.

A perfect reply would have been, ''what? eh? I''m sorry... you''re confusing me with someone who gives a S''.

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JJ

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25 Apr 12 #326533 by Dazed
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Thanks all for your responses.

This episode has actually made me shake my head in wonderment at his strange behaviour & not get upset which is progress indeed!

JJ - yes I agree - totally bizarre. But as many who know him have said "there will only ever be one of him" Thank goodness!

:)

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