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blonde cazza
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29 Apr 12 #327087 by blonde cazza

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Seriuosly why do people make it so hard for the other person?
After 15 months of pure hell ive just texted my ex to say that now our Nisi is almost through he should speak to his solicitor in regards to getting the Absolute issued and to check the arrangements for children as it was ammended...i put my ex should pick his son up for two days a week thus giving me the chance to work a longer day....no reply!
seriously why do the ex only want the child when its convient to them....baffles me really does...he kicks off about having more contact when its offered he doesnt seem to want it and doesnt even have the curiousity to reply...

fairylandtime
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29 Apr 12 #327094 by fairylandtime

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This is because he wants to remain in control & it may appear to him that you are telling him what to do.

I would try & contact him as little as possible, always have one sleep before responding to his txts. Keep the txts going back & forth, & the info about giving more contact - so you can show this if required.

You are doing what you can to help & facilitate contact with your x, but anything that might help you will be an automatic grate against him (why should I help her out . . . etc will spring to his mind) & he may see what you see as "helping" as you interfering / trying to control him & his time.

That is how my X is, if I ask him for anything / inform him about anything, he will automatically go against it because it me - bl***dy minded.

You get use to it, now if I want / need something from him I go in with a want / will accept attitude, if he knows I "need" it he will say no - just to be spiteful.

Good Luck & Stay Strong JJX

blonde cazza
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29 Apr 12 #327104 by blonde cazza

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Thanks just baffles me thats all...he only pays bear minimum csa amount and doesnt contribute towards taxis towards our son getting home as there is no school bus!...if it wasnt for my work being helpful i wouldnt be able to work and he would have to pay me more money!...
It just really baffles me that after 15 months of hell why he wouldnt want it done as soon as possible so that everyone can move on!...if he doesnt want to pick our child up then he should say...as ive had my Nisi certificate now,the judge has seen te child contact form but he hasnt said if hes in agreement to it or not! xxx

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