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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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17 May 12 #331096 by Fiona
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There won''t be a final hearing if the mother agrees to the recommendations. If she contests the courts could make an interim residence order in your favour and there would be a final hearing later.

Don''t do as one father up here did. He''d been so focused on the case that when he was granted residence of his children he was somewhat bemused and as he left the court on his way out he was overheard asking if that actually meant he had to care for them!:P

If you work shifts you will need arrangements for child care in place and a proposed schedule for contact, perhaps two or three nights every other weekend would work. That way there are fewer handovers.

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17 May 12 #331102 by Patrick1968
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Well done bbins !!

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18 May 12 #331373 by bbins
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thanks fiona & patrick, my partner and i dont need any outside care providers (she works from home),its a long road to get to this point and i am not counting my chickens yet. if it goes to another hearing than so be it but hopefully it will be finalised this wednesday. a lot of hard work, and i cant thank my mckenzie friend enough for helping me. whatever the outcome im ready for it. be back soon......

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24 May 12 #332600 by bbins
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hi all,well, at Directions hearing exs solicitor wants to contest the CAFCASS report (has questions they want to give the officer),a delay tactic i feel. judge ordered status quo to remain re;current contact and that posistion statements be filed at a later date before the ''final hearing''. this has been set for 1 day. such a shame for the children, but solicitor has to use all that legal aid up i suppose!any thoughts on this final hearing scenario be great.....

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23 Jul 13 #401831 by bbins
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been a while but, amazing outcome last year. at final hearing judge ordered a shared residence order with our daughters living with me and my partner, ex having alternate weekends , half holidays. after 10 months my ex moved to a pub further away and I recentely found out our kids had been sleeping in 1 of 5 rooms above the pub in communial accommodation, with no door on the room!!!!. b4 I could really address this issue, it appears she has moved into a 2 bed flat with a bloke she could only of known for maybe 6 weeks and his brother also lives there in the other room..

our daughters are this Saturday meant to be with their mother for 2 weeks, I have asked her for the following info.
1)what is your current address ?
2)will the girls have their own room ?
3)with a door on the room ?
4)what are your childcare arrangements while you work ?
5)who will be living at the address ?

she has yet to respond (which is stressful for the girls as they feel rejected in my view)and as she has a history of depression she may of gone on a bender or just cant face coming clean. I don''t think what im asking is unreasonable but if I get no response by Saturday what course of action should I take ??

if she thinks im playing a control game she is wrong, id just like some assurance that the girls will be safe.

I repeat texts to her as she always seems to forget dates/times when she is meant to be caring for our daughters, it is like dealing with a child if im brutally honest. I try my best to stick to the court order but this time im not pandering to her ways..

any advice/thoughts be greatly appreciated

many thanks, bbins

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