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decri nisi hearing tomorrow, i''m contesting costs

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09 May 12 #329424 by bikemad650
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Hi, this is my first post. My wife is divorcing me after i left her, im now in a new relationship, i''m in court tomorrow morning , the Petition states adultery but she is also in a new relationship. Ive offered to pay £500 to her costs, £340 ive already given her to raise the petition leaving £160 that she has rejected. My question is exactly what to expect in court? what kind of preparation if any do i need to take with me? What are my chances? Since leaving the family home i''ve given her extra money to cover bills after i left,and over £700 to decorate the childs bedroom.ive always paid £500 pound more than her into the joint account although our earnings were similar, I;m paying £300 for half the mortgage after leaving and £500 maintenance per month. will all this be taken into account or does it not really matter, thanks

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09 May 12 #329433 by cookie2
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What is this hearing for? Is it a Decree Nisi hearing to discuss costs of the actual divorce?

If so then no, all of those things you mention are probably not relevant except the £340 that you''ve already paid.

Does she have conclusive proof or a confession of your adultery? Did you sign and return the D10? If not then how is she going to prove to the court that you have committed adultery?

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09 May 12 #329436 by bikemad650
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thanks, the hearing is for the Nisi to be read out and her claim for court and legal costs. etc, i''m opposing paying more than £500 which should be half her costs but she is running the bill up with silly letters, She stated on the Petition for adultery so things move quicker, it said that i had formed a relationship with a former girlfriend and that we had both stayed over at each others properties bringing the conclusion that adultery had been comitted, this is all correct, we then stated on the petition that the relationship with my now girlfriend was started post seperation.

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09 May 12 #329439 by insane
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you both still married admission postseperation is still classed as adultery she will very probably get her costs awarded against you

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09 May 12 #329444 by bikemad650
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ok, thanks, see how it goes, any more advice still welcome tho

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09 May 12 #329445 by cookie2
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Yes, if you admitted adultery on the D10 (post-separation adultery is still adultery) then she will probably get her costs awarded. I''m sorry to say, you''ve shot yourself in the foot, and there probably isn''t much you can do to prevent it now.

It might be best to cut your losses, rather than fighting and arguing in court which will incur MORE costs.

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10 May 12 #329623 by bikemad650
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you where correct, judge not interested in the fact she has over £2000 left over after paying bills and mortgage and i have £120. She got all costs and got her solicitor to attend so tht is another £400 on top. look on the bright side tho, im now happy with my new girlfriend even though im skint.

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