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09 May 12 #329459 by Sunshine10
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I feel so tired. Really physically exhausted, aching arms and legs. Everything is an effort. I just want to go to bed and sleep, though I have been managing to sleep this week, somewhere between 4 and 7 hours a night. Maybe I''ve got a cold coming on but I can''t help thinking its all this ''stuff''. Is this all part of the stress of breaking up? Its really hard to keep work ticking over when I feel so knackered (on top of the very low motivation levels).

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09 May 12 #329460 by Patrick1968
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I''m afraid it is. Its also a symptom of depression. Its very hard to do anything let alone take care of yourself or get interested in anything. You can cut yourself some slack, you''ve been hit hard and are still reeling but you should try and stop doing nothing before it becomes routine. Theres a phrase which I think is called something like ''break up fatique''. The constant state of anxiety and the flux of your emotions cause hormone levels - serotonine and adrenaline amongst others to shoot all over the place. Don''t underestimate what you have been through and do not discount councelling. Its probably on a par with post-dramatic stress disorder.

In the meantime sit back and relax. Start to plan and think about actively staying fit....until then put the kettle on and pass the Hob-nobs.

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09 May 12 #329462 by cookie2
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It''s also a symptom of carbon monoxide poisoning. Don''t mean to scaremonger but may be worth checking out. You can get a detector very cheaply.

If it is just the breakup then agree, you need to force yourself to do things. Start a new fitness routine, take up a new hobby, get out and about. Fake it til you make it. And most importantly don''t let the bar steward drag you down!!!

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09 May 12 #329464 by Sunshine10
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I''m pretty sure its not Carbon Monoxide poisoning - I have a detector - but that made me smile. I should say that although I want to curl back under the duvet, I haven''t actually been doing that. I have been my usual busy self; up at the crack of dawn, getting kids moving, out and about and I work full time too.
Hang on a minute, maybe I am just knackered after all....:ohmy:

Seriously, I guess its just that I am surprised that I have had these flu-like symptoms for the last few weeks which I wonder if its the stress manifesting itself physically rather than just mentally as I''d previously experienced.

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09 May 12 #329465 by rubytuesday
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I would get yourself checked out by your GP, just to be on the safe side.

Depression can make us feel tired and lethargic, but so can not eating properly, broken sleep patterns etc.

Stress can manifest itself as physical symptoms too - it''s your body''s way of saying "slow down and chill for a bit". You have a lot on your plate to cope with, its not surprising that you are beginning to feel the knock-on effects.

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09 May 12 #329467 by Lostboy67
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Hi Sunshine,
What you describe are things that may be associated with depression, but the physical symptoms, possibly not. Perhaps it is time to see a GP ?

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09 May 12 #329479 by Marshy_
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Hi Sunshine.

Perhaps you have crashed from an adrenaline high? If your anxious about what is happening to you then your adrenal gland will produce adrenaline. This is the old fight or flee hormone. And it makes your heart pound and you feel full of beans. Unfortuanatly, when this hormone leaves you, you will just crash. This is why after a very stressful time, we feel like this. You have been propped up by a hormone and now its gone.

I used to be up and down and up and down in the early days. I was hyper alert at night (heart pounding, no apatite) and down during the day. It got so bad that I would fall asleep at my desk at work. And I was showing classic signs of stress due to lack of sleep.

What you need is rest. And good quality rest. Try the classic relaxation technique. Its dead easy. All you have todo is breath in and hold your breath for 30 or more seconds. Then breath out slowly. Do that cycle 3 - 5 times before retiring for the night. This will relax you and will make you feel sleepy. And then try and get some good quality sleep.

Of course, if you feel like you cant cope, go and see your health professional. And perhaps get you on some AD''s. There is no shame in taking AD''s and its not a cop out. And its only for a little while. We all need good quality rest at the best of times. And if you dont get proper rest, you cant function properly. And adrenaline long term is bad for you. You need to avoid all reasons and situations that make you anxious. I know this is hard considering what is happening. Hope this helps. C.

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