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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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12 May 12 #330113 by soobee
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hi just need some advice just had DN pronounced in court on friday...sol said as soon as we got paper work will start on Consent Order..im wondering how things proceed..heres some info on me
been married over 25yrs
separated 2yrs
3 adult children
i earn 12k
stbx earns 60k
house worth 285k
mortg on house 83k
joint savings 25k
money hes hidden 50k plus
his pension 105k
me none...
he thinks i deserve nothing ...know this is going to end in court as tried mediation but he wasnt prepared to agree on anything....any advice please.....:(

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12 May 12 #330117 by cookie2
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Long marriage, you will get a MINIMUM of 50% house equity and pension share, and with such a disparity in earning you will get considerable spousal maintenance.

Definitely worth going to court with these figures, if he won''t give you a good deal.

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12 May 12 #330120 by soulruler
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If you have joint savings in joint names then you need to contact the bank to make sure that no withdrawals are made without mutual consent to avoid those savings being depleted or removed.

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13 May 12 #330254 by soobee
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hi thanks for replies....just cant believe hes hidden so much money ,,,,while leaving me broke...:(

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13 May 12 #330257 by Stingrayj
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Believe it Soo ((((hug))))
Mine is on 7K a month tax free (maybe more now) and hasn''t given any support for 6 months now...not even support for our daughter. I am seriously struggling now but I hope I can somehow hang on until that Final Hearing in August.
Seems to be a lot of high earning b*****ds out there :(

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13 May 12 #330299 by soobee
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soz to hear your the same as me.....how can they get away with this.....mine spending mega money on girlfriend including her visa bills and yet im renting a room on small income...whilst hes having a field day :(

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14 May 12 #330407 by soulruler
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This is the type of case where you would be advised to go and see a forthright family solicitor without delay.

You need to get legal proceedings under way to protect any joint funds, get some funds if necessary off your husband - maybe an interim payment for legal fees if you do not have access to capital or sufficient income, a maintenence pending suite - this can only be done I believe once Financial E information is exchanged officially - someone might correct me here, maintenence for the children and it may be possible to get a financial injunction on funds which he is hiding (difficult as you need to know where he is hiding them and prove that not only has he intention of not disclosing but also that he has been deceitful - this type of injunction is called a section 37 of the Matrimonial Causes Act - it is applied for on the Form A (foundation document) to a district judge or as soon after Petition as possible to by way of summons (application form) to a judge in the Family Division - so not a regular district judge.

You need expert advise from the outset by the sounds of your case.

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