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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


Statement of case help for DIY divorce please?

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18 May 12 #331423 by dukey
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You can yes and the same goes for those, your not asking court to do anything its simply procedural, and if you think the D8 is a bit tricky wait until its time for the affidavit B)

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18 May 12 #331425 by Allbymyself
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I can''t wait... :dry:

Main thing that''s bothering me at the moment is what reasons to put and how to word it.. Btw, when you are finally divorced, I assume you get a divorce certificate like a marriage certificate? On that, does it say the reasons or is it kept between us and the court and the certificate just states that we are divorced?

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18 May 12 #331427 by dukey
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All the forms are private and the Absolute states nothing relating to the factor used to divorce.

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18 May 12 #331435 by cookie2
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The Nisi states who is the Petitioner and which of the 5 grounds were used, but no details on the actual wording used.

The Absolute just says you''re divorced, nothing about who was petitioner or grounds.

Once you''ve got absolute, nobody ever asks to see nisi. It is absolute that you need to show if you want to remarry or prove your divorced state, etc.

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18 May 12 #331455 by Allbymyself
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Great, thanks for that guys. Was worried that it would list all of the reasons on the Absolute. (just didn''t know it was called an absolute!) lol

Right, I''ve had another go at my reasons.. Or rather, I''ve done a lot of googling, stolen some examples from another website and then rejigger them a little where needed to better suit my circumstances. What do you think to them now, is it enough to convince a judge to grant me a divorce, and are there enough reasons...



1) The Respondent has refused to share her social life with the Petitioner, making the Petitioner feel unwanted and isolated.

By way of example, the Respondent often goes out alone with the children to see friends or family, and never invites the Petitioner to accompany her, leaving him to eat meals alone at home and not returning until after 9pm on most occasions.

2) The Respondent has displayed a patronising and condescending attitude towards the Petitioner, which has caused the Petitioner distress.

By way of example, the Respondent has belittled the Petitioner by constantly telling him off like he is a child in front of the Petitioner’s family and friends, which has undermined the Petitioner’s self confidence.

3) The Respondent has displayed a lack of interest in and affection towards the Petitioner, which has led the Petitioner to feel lonely and isolated.

By way of example, the Respondent never displays any interest in the Petitioner’s activities, and never asks him how he is feeling, or how he has passed his day.

4) The respondent shows no interest in the Petitioner intimately, leaving the petitioner feeling unloved and frustrated.

By way of example, on the night of 23rd January 2012, the respondent reacted to the petitioners intimate advances by hitting him whilst they were in bed together.

5) As a result of the Respondent’s unreasonable behaviour, the Petitioner found it impossible to continue living with the Respondent. Consequently, the Petitioner permanently vacated the former matrimonial home on the 13th May 2012 since when the Petitioner and the Respondent have lived entirely separate and apart. Prior to this date the petitioner had been sleeping separately from the respondent on the living room sofa since February 2012.

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19 May 12 #331561 by dukey
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Its much better, start it with;

The marriage has irrevocably broken down.

So you got clobbered while making an intimate advance, beats the standard i`m tired or headache excuse i suppose.

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19 May 12 #331566 by Allbymyself
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Ha, yeah! She didn''t even say anything that time, just feking hit me! Lol oh well, at least I know where I stand eh?!

Other than this form, what else do I need to do? The more I read about having to pay her maintenence the more angry I''m getting.. I don''t mind paying for the kids, but don''t see why I should pay her anything considering the marriage breakdown is largely her fault. At this rate I won''t be able to afford my own bills! The system sucks. She gets the kids, my car, I''m giving her a third of my redundancy payout which isn''t a lot but damn.. She''s gonna clean me out! She''s keeping all the furniture, tv etc.. She says she doesn''t want anything else but it seems I am legally obliged to pay up? Is there some kind of legal agreement we can make that says after the split I just pay child maintenence and she won''t come after me for anything else?

Thanks again for your advice so far, I will go ahead and fill out the rest of the form with those reasons then... *gulp*

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