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Never thought I would feel this way

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19 May 12 #331657 by epitome title
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Just watching The Voice and Danny and his team sang "You''re just someone that I used to know" and I realised that is exactly how I feel about stbx

We were at FDR two weeks ago and I looked long and hard at him, he didn''t look at me once, and I realised I just no longer knew him

Sad? revelation? not sure, but I have spent the best part of 27 years in total with this man and I no longer know him - or obviously even want to but it is a strange feeling

Anyone else had that "lightbulb" moment?

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19 May 12 #331663 by iusedtolovehim
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Ooh, epitome - snap! I felt exactly the same. H moved out 3 months ago and we haven''t spoken since - the last time I saw him was when he came to switch cars in the middle of March, and when I looked at him I realised I didn''t know him at all . . .

A strange feeling indeed. We were together since 1985 and I find it hard to understand how somebody I shared everything with is now a stranger.

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19 May 12 #331664 by yellowrose
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Ditto.

How you can spend so long (33 years in my case) with someone and not really know them is beyond me. I certainly don''t like the person he now is and interestingly neither do any of ''our'' friends.

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19 May 12 #331665 by epitome title
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Weird isn''t it? and I think your name says it all !!

The divorce process in a way although probably the hardest thing I have ever gone through, is a healing process, well it has been for me, I am glad the court process has taken over and timescales are now out of our hands - afraid that i am still wishing away my life until I can be completely free of him.
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19 May 12 #331666 by epitome title
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Yellowrose

the amount of people who have said to me since we broke up "I could never work out why you were with him" "you married beneath you" and other actually not very nice things about him is ridiculous

Finally I woke up and smelt the coffee, been over a year since I left and can''t wait until I can say I am actually divorced

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19 May 12 #331667 by iusedtolovehim
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Same here. So many of ''our'' friends have expressed their thoughts about our marriage and why it was so wrong . . . I hope the OW makes him happy, I really do - but I suspect there is something in him that will never allow happiness. In the meantime I am enjoying an abuse free life - but we will begin divorce procedures soon and then it will get ugly . . .:(

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19 May 12 #331668 by epitome title
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unfortunately it has a habit of doing so, mine certainly has - we are going to final hearing, but I just have to look on it as part of the process otherwise I would go mad

Knowing that I will be (relatively) rid of him soon is enough to forge ahead - life is so much better without him, no bullying, no controlling, no do as I say, not as I do - makes waking up each morning a pleasure

Although we did not split up due to any affairs, that i know of, he has somehow found someone prepared to put up with him, feel sorry for her or has the leopard finally changed his spots instead of camoflaging them? I don''t know and certainly don''t care :)

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