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My parents struggling to accept my decision

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21 May 12 #331977 by aero00
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I am starting the divorce process very soon. I''ve been married nearly two years, not long I know. It is all down to me, my husband does not want the divorce but is starting to realise where I am coming from. However, my parents are doing everything in their power to get us back together. The pressure they are putting on me is extreme, and I feel like I''m being ganged up on. I have no idea how to manage them. I have been totally open with them as to why I do not want to be married any longer. I have been with my husband 6 years, married 2. However, I think we totally rushed into getting married, and got caught up in the wedding as such.

Does anyone have any advice as to what I can do to help my parents? They are constantly telling me they are not sleeping, and they are totally stressed and upset by my decision.

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21 May 12 #331979 by cookie2
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Tell them you are a big girl now and you make your own decisions. It''s not your fault that they are not sleeping and are stressed. Suggest they seek counselling and/or medical advice for their issues.

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21 May 12 #331989 by Mitchum
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Parents worry. They can''t help it, it comes with the territory. It doesn''t matter how old you are, take my word for it, they will worry. They''re not worried about themselves you know. They''re worried about you, your happiness and security. What affects you, affects them deeply.

If my daughter was facing divorce, I wouldn''t be sleeping either. She''s not fortunately, but she has faced other extreme difficulties re parenthood and I''ve worried about her and her husband. What parents have to do is to support once the decision is made. Bear in mind that sometime during the divorce process you may be going to them for support.

However, once it''s clear that it''s your wish they should then stand back and let you get on with it. Oh yes, parents have well-bitten tongues.

Take care. xx

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