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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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28 May 12 #333503 by galinios
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Hallo there
we have now completed one year since I first saw a lawyer about a divorse and we have just had our application turned down. After all the mediation and fuffing around and spending money we are still on square one. I applied for a divorse on the five year separation basis and we agreed I do it because I got hold of a lawyer first. Is it supposed to be like that or are we doing something very wrong? Thank you

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28 May 12 #333508 by dukey
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Strange, do you have proof of service, did your other half sign the form from court?, if so what reason did the judge give to decline the application for divorce.

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28 May 12 #333589 by galinios
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Thank you for the response. I put a claim on the basis of living together and apart, have all the evidence etc. He was told by his solicitors that the judge argued if he is too poor to afford to move out what practical benefit is there in the divorse. So now I am left to prove what this is. He emphasised his financial difficulty hoping to gain financial advantage I think or at least to not be too seriously disadvantaged by the proceedings. So what next...

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28 May 12 #333591 by dukey
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Are you saying you still love together but were using five years separation.

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28 May 12 #333594 by galinios
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yes, we occupy different parts of the house and are absolutely NOT together but I am not kicking him out and until we reach some sort of settlement he is not moving. I have been very reluctant to go on unreasonable behaviour because it is a very sore thing and even a trivial thing trigger something. Hate court agro

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28 May 12 #333598 by dukey
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The problem is that the aim of divorce is to show that you both should no longer have to live together, given you are still living together after five years it would be hard pushed for any judge to accept the marriage is really over, it''s hard enough based on two years while living together, you will have to think again.

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28 May 12 #333603 by galinios
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OK so can I go on behaviour now? Does non-interaction, non-participation count or does it have to be something really bitchy? I feel like we are a pair of chickens lined up for a fight

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