Quick update. I found out my wife was having an affair 18 months ago. What followed was plenty of lies and what felt like torture to me. We never moved away during all this and eventually got back together again last May. We split again in Sept because I found om email hidden in her phone. She filed for divorce claiming my unreasonable behaviour. Received the divorce papers xmas week.
Anyhow...Boxing day she asked me to move back into our bed and said she made a mistake and didn''t want to divorce or go through it all ever again. What followed was 4 months of happiness again with me correcting all the things she complained about and basically trying to take all the stresses out of her life??
4 weeks ago she told me she had to have an std test due to a drunken fling before xmas when we had split up????
3 weeks ago she said she didnt love me anymore but didn''t want a divorce or me to move out.
2 weeks ago she asked me to move out and when I said no she said she was going to a solicitor.
Today I received a letter asking me to go to a mediator.
Reading between the lines of her actions she has been hedging her bets with you, she probably had an afair that ended before Christmas, and may well have resumed that now or started a new one. Basically keeping you hanging around until she finally descided that you were surplus to requirements...its not suprising you feel confused.
Good step not to move out and don''t. Do you know what the visit to the mediator is to discuss.
Can only think to discuss the house and kids. She told me she''s not moving out because the kids need to stay in their home.
er..what about me? can I not stay in the house with the kids and you do one.
She seems to be getting more pee''d off with me by the day because I am not bowing to her wishes.
I will be N odd one then my husband walked out doesn''t even see the kids he resigned from the job while I was e ailing him to come back N stay with kids while I would have found myself a sharing accommodation
A few weeks since the last update and things are as f*ked up as ever. Went to a solicitor to seek advice and he was very good and told me things where''nt as bad as i thought they where going to be. He told me she wont necessarily get the house and i needed somewhere to live big enough for the kids staying over or if she wanted a divorce she should move out.
I gave him the divorce petition i received, which happens to be the old one dragged out of the courts, and he advised that we tell her solicitor that the reasons should be void due to us getting back together and cohabiting again since december.
Since then i have heard nothing till i received a letter today off the courts saying that they have agreed with the bull she has wrote and i should pay her costs??? All this after we have been getting on better, slept together and had a night out together
What should i expect now? Is there even a point anymore of paying for a solicitor if it looks like i am screwed anyway???