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02 Jun 12 #334647 by MrsMathsisfun
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My partner has his children this week as its half term. This morning his youngest child woke crying from a bad dream.

When he asked what was wrong she said that she had dreamt that she was never going to see her mum bf again and that she misses him.


My partner really didnt know what to say to his daughter as the bf is/was the other man and my partners ex has never really admitted to having a relationship with him so we dont know very much about him.

From what the children have said, he does spend a lot of time living with them, but that he also works away.

Both children (10 and 7) are out of sorts and upset about something.

My partner and his ex are terrible communicators and a slight wrongly worded text / chat can cause mayhem.

Should we contact mum and ask her whats going on re bf or should just try to reassure the children as best we can without knowing whether the bf is just working away at the moment or whether actually the relationship is over.

What do you think?

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02 Jun 12 #334649 by hawaythelads
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Gloss right over that one none of your business at all.
You''ve got a nice weeks holiday with the kids why do you wanna drag that potential trouble to the fore.You say they communicate terribly.She''ll probably be defensive and blame you for upsetting the kid and that you''ve been interrogating her.And try and pull contact.
R u gluttons for punishment?
I would''ve been come on dry your eyes just a bad dream.Right this is what your doing with your Dad for this week.
All the best
Pete x

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02 Jun 12 #334653 by NoWhereToTurnl
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Totally agree with Pete, distract them with all the things they are going to be doing. Bad dreams can upset any of us and take a while to forget, also they have just come to stay & need time to settle down.

Hope you all have a lovely week x

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02 Jun 12 #334654 by sillywoman
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I dreamt last week that my dad and his wife had black twins. As both my dad and his wie are in their 80s that sure aint gonna happen and as they are both white, couldn''t anyway!

Dreams are just dreams!

If she becomes more upset and wants to talk, listen, cos thats what we parents are for.

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02 Jun 12 #334656 by Enuff Already
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Just reassure the child. Comfort them but I wouldn''t personally engage in conversation about the bf. Not your business really, but kids is your business so lots of loves and cuddles and distractions.

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02 Jun 12 #334676 by MrsMathsisfun
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Your right its none of our business what going on in her relationship and we wouldnt have actually asked. Just wondered if we should inform mum of the upset.

The children have stayed for long period of time with us before so we know its not about adjusting to being here.

Think we leave it be, reassure the children if they get unset again and just get on with enjoying our week.

If they mention it again, think my partner might just say that they have been a bit upset about something when he take them back.

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02 Jun 12 #334677 by Enuff Already
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Will she use the fact that the kid has been upset against you?

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