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Breach of contact order.

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07 Jun 12 #335532 by Shi Tong
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Hello Wikipeeps.

When I went to court earlier this week, the Judge wrote down a contact order; the arrangement was clear.

Because I have an upcoming holiday, I asked the Judge if I could make sure the holiday was respected.

The Judge of course told me that it was fine, provided I made up the days missing, and allowed my children to go to contact with my ex on the days they didn''t go.

Because my holiday spanned the weekend and worked over her usual Sunday, I offered her the children on the Wednesday night so that the children had a sense of continuity.

However, my ex wrote back saying that she would be working that week and unable to have them on the Wednesday as I suggested.

She then said "I''m willing to be flexible and if you have the children more than me I hope you don''t hold it against me".

I''m a bit confused because I thought she was taking this to court to define contact and now I feel vulnerable again because she may break the court order and use "I hope you don''t hold it against me" as a reason for breaking it in court.

There''s a Sunday which she asked me she could take off. I originally agreed but again, it''s not in the order and wasn''t mentioned in court.

I want to stick to the order because I don''t want to be held irresponsible by the Judge and court either.


Thanks!! xx

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11 Jun 12 #336088 by jonathancj
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The judge shouldn''t get bogged down with details like this. A Court understands that orders occasionally have to be varied in practice for all sorts of different reasons.

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