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07 Jun 12 #335552 by soobee
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hi anyone who has followed my post will know the problems im having with finances and getting stbx to be honest about his...had letter from his solicitor about exchanging form E on a voluntary basis....met with my solicitor today and her view is that due to him hiding moving money and never being honest about finances in mediation that it is better to just start court proceedings...she feels that the other way will just prolong every thing and add more cost to me.....as much as i wanted to be amicable im afraid that went out of the window months ago....so i have given her the green light to go ahead.....find it very scary but hoping i have done the right thing.....:(:(

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07 Jun 12 #335570 by Action
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I think you have done the right thing - my Mediator said so many times that mediation only works if both parties are honest. My ex wasn''t at all honest but I let stalled for so long that he succeeded in making himself appear to be desitute. By that time it was too late to consider taking proceedings so I have had to settle and make a compromise.

I do hope that your STBX gets a wake up call fast so that you don''t have to go the whole way.

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07 Jun 12 #335592 by soobee
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thanks action...mine has hidden so much but it is all traceable so ..hes not been that cleaver ....think this is the only way i can go now.......sadly....

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07 Jun 12 #335604 by Action
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It''ll not reflect well on him in court when it comes out what he has been up to. They are such fools that think they are so much more clever than they actually are.

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08 Jun 12 #335637 by soobee
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thats what im hoping......didnt want it to be like this but hes not wanted to sort this out at all....he wants me to have nothing ...know this isnt going to happen ..but getting fed up with how long everything is taking..but will have to make do for now :(:(

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08 Jun 12 #335648 by cookie2
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Yes you''re doing the right thing. If you exchange voluntarily then you don''t have the right to get answers to any questions you may ask. If done through the court then he will be obliged to answer to the satisfaction of a court.

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08 Jun 12 #335651 by Action
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HI Soobee

I know the feeling about the time when you just want it settled so you can get on with your life. Does your STBX know that you''re applying for AR? Let us know how he reacts. I just hope that he gets some good advice and sees sense to settle without going the whole way.

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