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Transferring of assets prior to divorce?

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08 Jun 12 #335791 by gfm198
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Hi

I know it''s not a topic that most like to help with.

However, I would like to save my marriage if possible, and prepared to go marriage counselling.

Been married 6 months to my pregnant wife. Every time we have a row she says she will divorce me and take me to the cleaners.

I simply want to stop her having this option and hopefully losing this option will perhaps save our marriage.

Also if the worse came to the and she took me to the cleaners this would deprive my two young children (previous relationship)of there inheritance and also my unborn child.

I simply do not care about the money for myself. My intention has always been to leave as much property and money to my children. I scrimp and save to achieve this.

I have a nice house (plus a buy to let property) a banger of car and a holiday once a year! So I''m happy.

But would not be if my inheritance was taken away from my kids in such a way as this.

So my question is if I transferred my property to a family member, how long would I have to do this before the divorce would the courts would be satisfied that it was not done to prevent a payout come divorce day?

Also would it be a bad idea to go to marriage counselling as this may be further proof I done this to avoid a divorce payout.

Thanks in advance for any help and advice.

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08 Jun 12 #335794 by WYSPECIAL
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But if you transfer it to someone else then you will be robbing your children of their inheritance anyway.

Court would see through it in about ten seconds.

If you think the marriage can be saved and want that then you need to go to counselling.

If your wife is pregnant is she feeling insecure or depressed or were there issues before the pregnancy?

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08 Jun 12 #335796 by NoWhereToTurnl
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Many of us have given you advice on your previous posts, all have been about the property, I for one talked about the hormonal changes in pregnancy!

Possibly 99.99% of us on here are because we have had the most horrendous divorce and ex''s who have hidden assets, often from long term marriages.

Property is traceable, so get real and even if your pregnant wife will not go with you, go for counselling as soon as you can.

In a previous post you said about selling the properties and gambling it all away! thats not the way to save your marriage.

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08 Jun 12 #335797 by gfm198
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Obviously they would be transferred back once the dust had settled after the divorce.

Issues before the pregnancy but got worse. Cant seem to solve them.

I want my kids over she doesn''t!!!

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08 Jun 12 #335801 by jslgb
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Arent you contradicting yourself??

You said you want to transfer your assets so your wife wont divorce you as she wont get anything, and then your saying you will transfer them back after the divorce??

Contrary to what you believe i''m sure i''m not alone in saying that i wanted my marriage to work and divorce wasnt my choice, but it takes 2 to make a marriage work. Maybe if you dont want a divorce you should spend more time and energy into making your marriage work rather than trying to hide things from your no doubt emotional, hormonal pregnant wife!!

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08 Jun 12 #335803 by WYSPECIAL
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gfm198 wrote:

Obviously they would be transferred back once the dust had settled after the divorce.
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Then the order would be set aside.

Thats assuming the court accepted it as a transfer in the first lace which is unlikely.

What if the person you transferred it to decided to keep it instead of transferring it back?

You would also incur massive costs to transfer property to someone then transfer it back.

Far better to save the money.

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08 Jun 12 #335804 by gfm198
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Not really getting much in the way of answers here.

Not contradicting myself, but will explain it better.

If she has nothing to win in a divorce settlement then she might perhaps back down and and allow my kids to stay overnight.

If not then being a good dad and loving my kids as much as I do then divorce may be the only option?

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