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Just told my 7 year old about changes.

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09 Jun 12 #335937 by Shi Tong
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Just told my 7 year old about changes, that Sunday is now permanently going to be a mummy day.

He howled, then talked to me for over an hour in his bed telling me how unhappy he is about the change. I just had to keep telling him that this is the way it is.

Question: How will CAFCASS view this? They''re going to do a full report.

Are they going to see that their family home is the "right place" for them to stay for longer periods?

Not only is it the FMH, but I''m doing all the kids hw, loads of reading and deal with the vast majority of medical stuff etc.

I also do most of their cleaning, and take really good care of them.

Will they still "ignore" that because of their ages (7,5.... now nearly 8 and 6)?

Thank you...

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09 Jun 12 #335938 by zonked
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My first thought is that the child does not have a strong attachment to his mum and that''s bad and needs to be fixed, for his future benefit - there being a gap between his wishes and his welfare. As for why he doesn''t have that attachment and why he''s expressing those wishes that''s a different matter all together, a number of explantions are possible. Therefore to me, the additional contact seems quite reasonable.

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10 Jun 12 #335957 by Shi Tong
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Well, following lots of verbal and mental abuse, I''m not surprised he''s upset about the extra day.

It seems to me that if a man had done the same things she had, it would be expected to keep contact the same until safeguarding is done

Can anyone tell me what CAFCASS might recommend?


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