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11 Jun 12 #336141 by soobee
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hi been separated over two years...got Decree Nisi.....just waiting to go to court to sort out finances......why oh why do i not feel happy that everything starting to get sorted....and why do i question that ive done the wrong thing in starting the divorce......feeling very sad and uncertain now:( :(:(:(

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11 Jun 12 #336157 by livinginhope
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I think what you are feeling is fairly normal and happens to lots of people.It''s a sense of doing something irrevocable that is frightening.It all becomes very real and a marriage ending can signal a loss of the hopes and dreams we once had for our future lives.I would suggest you reflect on all of the things that were wrong with your marriage and try and look towards happier times in the future.
Good luck,things will improve after this grieving period xxx

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11 Jun 12 #336168 by leftwondering
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I agree with livinginhope.

The past is "safe" and the future can look frightening.
Maybe not when you are 18 or so, but as you get older and settled into a certain lifestyle and routine, it really rocks the boat to undergo such a big change.
Where kids are involved it makes it even worse as you can''t quite shut the door on that chapter of your life.
Divorce or loss of a relationship is hardly a happy time in anyone''s life.
But you will move on from this.

Wait and see!


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13 Jun 12 #336555 by soobee
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thanks for replies just think ive hit rock bottom at the moment ...to much time reflecting i think...plus as got three kids he will never really be out of my life ....:(:(

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