hi been separated over two years...got Decree Nisi.....just waiting to go to court to sort out finances......why oh why do i not feel happy that everything starting to get sorted....and why do i question that ive done the wrong thing in starting the divorce......feeling very sad and uncertain now:(
I think what you are feeling is fairly normal and happens to lots of people.It''s a sense of doing something irrevocable that is frightening.It all becomes very real and a marriage ending can signal a loss of the hopes and dreams we once had for our future lives.I would suggest you reflect on all of the things that were wrong with your marriage and try and look towards happier times in the future.
Good luck,things will improve after this grieving period xxx
The past is "safe" and the future can look frightening.
Maybe not when you are 18 or so, but as you get older and settled into a certain lifestyle and routine, it really rocks the boat to undergo such a big change.
Where kids are involved it makes it even worse as you can''t quite shut the door on that chapter of your life.
Divorce or loss of a relationship is hardly a happy time in anyone''s life.
But you will move on from this.