Hi My husband Left me last year with no reason (he still can''t give me a reason), we have been married 5 years and have been a couple/living together 12 years. He mentioned divorce but has not initiated anything. I still love him and do not want a divorce. Is he waiting for the two year period in the hope I will get less in a settlement? Would i get less if I waited for him to initiate things? or do I bite the bullet and get the ball rolling myself?
I have tried to get him to sit down and arrange things between us but he keeps making excuses why he can''t (work, travelling etc.).
Divorce is very final so its always best to be absolutely sure before you embark on the divorce journey.
Have you thought about maybe trying relate or some form of counseling to find out what the problem is, personally i think it should be more or less required for many with obvious exceptions.
Because you have two children its unlikely your financial entitlement would change if you did wait two years, that said even if he does wait two years you will need to consent to the divorce before the court will allow it.
Probably the best course of action is to keep talking to try and find out what is or has gone wrong with the marriage.