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17 Jun 12 #337261 by fedup70
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hi all, sorry to ask lots of questions but am in need of answers for a friend, he has sole custody of children , they see their mother every 2 weeks at the weekends, sadly she had been hospitalised under the mental health act and has been released into her own place a few weeks ago, the children are due to see her this weekend coming but have stated they dont want to go, even though they will be supervised at her fathers house with her, the children are aged 13 and 9. can i insist they go if they dont want to ?

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17 Jun 12 #337263 by NoWhereToTurnl
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So sorry you are all in this very sad situation, did the children see their mother when she was in hospital and how long was she there, was she sectioned under the mental health act?
The children will have found their mothers illness very frightening, mental illness is not like a broken arm. They might also be suffering from anxiety separation if they have not had contact with their mother for a while.
If at all possible it would benefit both the mother and the children to build up a relationship again, if they get on with granddad, could he encourage them to visit their mother.
You have not said what the mother''s diagnosis is, is it likely she will be able to play an active role in parenting in the near future?
Best wishes.

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17 Jun 12 #337266 by fedup70
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sadly the children are not allowed to see their mother whilst she is on her own. she has been in and out of hospital for the last five and a half years, they did go and visit her with their father when she was in hospital but were not able to stay long because she was so unstable, sadly her father was abusive to the children about their dad and a letter had to be written through solicitors for this to stop, it did. but the children have said they will only go and see her if they stay with her at their grandads where she stays every other weekend, this is when she sees them,. thankyou for your reply,

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17 Jun 12 #337267 by fedup70
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sadly she has stated that the children will continue to live with their father, she happy just to see them every other weekend and thats all she wants

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17 Jun 12 #337269 by fedup70
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the children did have phone contact with her when she was in hospital. sorry to keep replying in bits and drabs but keep rememebering things x she was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder but over the last few weeks she has told the eldest that she wishes she was back in hospital and that she wishes she was dead. all very sad xx

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17 Jun 12 #337270 by NoWhereToTurnl
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It does sound like the mother has long term mental illness which must tare the family apart, unless there is a contact order in place, all you can do is try your best. It might be wise to discuss the situation with the community psychiatric team & GP.
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17 Jun 12 #337273 by fedup70
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thankyou for your reply this is probably the next step, sadly as they are going through a divorce also, would he be able to get access to her current records or should the solicitor be able to request these, sadly it is a long term illness and my friend has said that the longest she has been out of hosptial has been for this last year .

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