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Is this called an affaire?

  • Saengdaed
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19 Jun 12 #337663 by Saengdaed
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If my husband had sex with a prostitute , can I call this is an affaire ?
If I want to get divorce ,then what kind of evidence should I use?
I have seen his folder in his room. It have a lot of photos of the lady that he was printing out from the prostitute website. And some of the photo had a note on the top that he have to make an appointment , and some photos already got an address . Can I take a photo or copy of his hand writing as an evidence .

And more than that he got a number of one girl but I don''t know what going on between them.

Can anybody tell me what should I do ?

Many thanks

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19 Jun 12 #337664 by pixy
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The general advice is that adultery is difficult to prove unless the other party agrees. It is easier to divorce on unreasonable behaviour, which could easily include consorting with prostitutes and/or an inappropriate relationship with another woman.

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19 Jun 12 #337666 by rubytuesday
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Welcome to Wikivorce.

I doubt it could be classed as an affair, but it is adultery.

The problem with using adultly as the grounds for divorce on the Petition is that should he refute that allegation, you are back at the beginning. Proof of adultery is difficult, as you would either need a child/pregnancy or some very intimate photographs to prove that that sexual intercourse has taken place.

If you are seeking a divorce (and I can understand why you would be!), Unreasonable behaviour would be the better option for you. This is because you can state his use of prostitutes as one of the examples of his UB, but even if he refutes those allegations, and consents to the divorce, the divorce will still proceed as uncontested.

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19 Jun 12 #337667 by jslgb
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I''m with Pixy on this one. I wanted to divorce my stbxh on grounds of adultery and i was told unless i had photographic evidence of them engaging in the act, there was an illegitimate child or a confession i had no chance.

I''m now divorcing on the basis of unreasonable behaviour citing his affair as one of the reasons.

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19 Jun 12 #337670 by Saengdaed
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Thanks for your information. I didn''t have the evidence of them.i just had his hand writing on top of the photo said " he will book on this July "

What can I do then? So sad .

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19 Jun 12 #337712 by Action
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Sorry to hear what you''re going through. Have you talked to him about it yet? Do you want try to fix the marriage?

The end of my 32 year marriage was the result of me finding out about ''an inappropriate relationship'' with a prostitute too. He wouldn''t admit adultery (even though I found receipts for condoms and photos of her dressed in the saucy undies he''d bought her) and I didn''t include anything about it in the divorce petition. I wish I had now but I wasn''t very strong at the time.

As with a lot of people in this situation, I got the blame - lack of ''conjugal rights'' (LOL), ''I''ve not been happy for years'' etc.

Send me a PM if you want to ''chat'' more.

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