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21 Jun 12 #338080 by elial
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Bit complicated, but here goes:-
Have lived in France for last 10 years with my man(both 60)
He has health issues (heart bypass, stents fitted and more to come plus other problems)to which end he receives an Invalidity Pension and cant work.
Because she doesnt know our address, he received in August 2011, a Decree Nisi via his daughter in the UK.
His wife wants relief plus half of the debts they unfortunately run up in UK.
We have heard nothing since.
We do not want to reveal our whereabouts because we are afraid the stress of dealing with this may be too much for him with his health. He only has his Invalidity Pension of €500 per month so cant afford relief or debt repayment.
We would like to marry before much longer, but dont know how to proceed.
any advice would be appreciated

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21 Jun 12 #338094 by maisymoos
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If they were joint debts it would seem wrong that his ex is left to cope with them alone?

To remarry you would need the Decree Absolute, if there are outstanding financial issues from the marriage they would need dealing with. A judge may not release the Absolute until he/she is satisfied that finances are sorted.

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21 Jun 12 #338142 by elial
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Thanks for the reply,

Of course no one is treating the debt problem lightly.
Its a question of finding a solution that allows him to recognize his part so that matters can be finalized.
Can he be protected from the worst of the stress that accompanies debt negotiation as this impacts on his health?
If he has little income then is there any point, as the famous quote says "cant get blo..........etc)

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21 Jun 12 #338160 by hadenoughnow
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Are there any assets of the marriage - ie property. pensions etc?

How long has he been separated?

What scale of debts are we talking about here? Are they in sole or joint names?


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